Have you ever had somebody invite themselves to stay for a few days where you live?

[Kikimusnik]

I moved away from my hometown 3 years ago.

A few weeks ago I had a Facebook message from a person I went to school with, we did have mutual friends and worked together at one point when we were a lot younger, we were friendly also. (Drifted apart over the years which is natural I suppose)

Like I say I moved away and don't speak to this person or have their number etc, I was so shocked to receive a message from her saying perhaps she could come and visit me?!

Bare in mind I've not seen her for a good 7 years or so, I was so shocked how cheeky someone could be to just message out of the blue when I don't see her regularly and we aren't friends anymore!

I did politely tell her that no thanks it wouldn't work for me! After that she moaned that the travelling would be too much and that I live too far away apparently 🤣😆

I find it so rude, why do people invite themselves!

Has anybody else ever had something similar happen?

There was a poster on one of these threads who told a CF she wasn't going to be home that weekend and they were delighted, thinking they could have her place to themselves.

When I moved into a lovely area I had a lot of people asking to visit and was glad to say yes to good friends and family but had to learn to say to the others. I was happy to make coffee or a snack for almost anyone but not have them to stay. I'm better at 'no' these days; I say there's too much going on or we're having work done in the house, which is mostly true.

Yes. My mother.

I like my mother, but... I do not want guests when I work 80 hours a week (including every other weekend), the cleaning goes to pot when I'm in work, I go to bed and get up very early for work, I generally run out of grocery items by the end of my shift, and quite a chunk of my first day off is spent asleep and doing very little because I'm so tired. I just need time to switch off, reset and to do normal things like cleaning and shopping before I'm back in work.

As she will not drive here by herself, someone else will drop her off. When she is here, I'm expected to ferry her around, because she is too nervous to drive my car. I live in the middle of nowhere, so entertainment isn't exactly on tap, and public transport is an interesting concept. The fact that she once said that my house is "too remote" is now irrelevant, because she likes visiting the nearest town and wants keeps threatening to move there, if only my sibling wasn't so far away. She has tried encouraging them to move closer to me.

Thankfully, my friends are all busy doing grown-up things like getting engaged and having babies, so staying with me is the last thing on their mind!

Throughout the years my mother has always announced when her and my father will be visiting and hasn’t taken no for an answer. My sister told her that the spare room was in the midst of being decorated but that didn’t stop her visiting and my sister and BIL ended up on the sofa. Anyway, many years later with my children being adults and living away and me being on my own, she did it again and gave me a date for them to visit and would be staying three nights. We don’t get on and it wouldn’t have worked so I put my foot down and told her I wouldn’t be home because of a booked holiday. Needless to say, she stopped contacting me in a tantrum, I guess. She’s moved around the corner from my sister, so it’s now her problem 😊