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Feeling embarrassed someone is asking about my weightloss

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Righttofeelawkward · 17/08/2025 21:39

So for context I don’t feel embarrassed about making changes to my health rather this person being very over the top in public!

I am late 40s and am currently 3 stone lighter than I have been at my heaviest. I am a mum, have a career that is all consuming but have now found a routine of exercise (4 times a week with mix of cardio and strength training) and am 8 months in to intermittent fasting which I find works well for my life. I don’t however feel like I am on a diet and I workout partly to try and beat my age and be active!

Today I was in a shop when someone who I vaguely know through mutual friends made a point of stopping me and telling me how skinny I am (I am definitely not skinny!). I know this lady has been quite open about her weightloss journeys and has previously been successful with a weight loss club. She asked me whether I was back at this particular weight loss club and I explained no (in fact I’ve never been!) and she then grilled me on what I was doing whilst also telling me she was rejoining so I could join with her (!).

I felt uncomfortable as at this point a lot of people were looking and I was gracious in responding to her complimenting me but also tried not to encourage the conversation.

Whilst I am really proud of my body changing and how strong I’ve become as well as how nice it feels to buy clothes two sizes smaller, I’m not one for promoting what am doing. Tbh it makes me feel awkward and a bit embarrassed. Obviously with close friends and family it’s different but this felt weird.

Am I the only one that wants to just enjoy what am doing without showy conversations? I wanted the ground to swallow me up 🙈

OP posts:
HotTiredDog · 17/08/2025 22:21

No, you aren’t.
You’re actually rather wonderful just for that!
Congratulations on your achievements.

minipie · 17/08/2025 22:26

She probably thought she was being complimentary but I absolutely understand why you wouldn’t want this loud and rather one sided approach in public!!

BlueSkies1981 · 18/08/2025 08:23

HotTiredDog · 17/08/2025 22:21

No, you aren’t.
You’re actually rather wonderful just for that!
Congratulations on your achievements.

This is really kind thank you x

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BlueSkies1981 · 18/08/2025 08:24

minipie · 17/08/2025 22:26

She probably thought she was being complimentary but I absolutely understand why you wouldn’t want this loud and rather one sided approach in public!!

This is exactly it…x

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