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So fed up with weight but don't know how people manage it

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FatnFedUp199 · 17/08/2025 17:50

I'm 5ft11 and weight about 13.5 stone, size 14.

Before my son was born I was a lot slimmer, roughly about 11 stone, size 10.

Life seems so much these days, I lack all motivation to change anything but I am so fed up with how I look. I hate every picture of me. I'm not absolutely huge because I'm tall I do alright pulling it off but to myself I just know how different I look now and I hate it.

I feel like I have no time. Im self employed in a fast paced business often working 6 days weeks when childcare allows. I try and eat well during the day and actually often succeed but it usually comes undone when I finally sit down at 9pm after fighting all evening with a sleep refusing toddler and decide fuck it and have chocolate / crisps etc..

My week looks like wake at 6:30, sort toddler, drop him off at nursery, get to work for 8, leave at half 5, pick toddler up, home, bath, bed, fight for over an hour with toddler to go sleep, finally sit down to have my own tea at maybe 8pm and the cycle goes on.

I used to love walking but now I have no time. Weekends are spent with DC who obviously can't walk far so it's almost useless in terms of fitness.

I have no time to go to the gym, nursery and work are too far to walk there and back. I'm absolutely knackered all the time.

Since hitting 30 I feel like weight doesn't fall off anymore just by eating well for a few weeks. In my twenties I never really bothered with exercise either aside from more walking before DS was born but my weight maintained pretty well just through food. Now I might lose a pound if that by calorie counting for a week or two and with stress and lack of sleep I lose motivation to carry it on really quickly.

How are people doing this? I'm seeing people bounce back to a size 10 after giving birth a month ago and here's me 3 years in feeling like I can't shift even a few pounds.

I'm so sick of it. I even applied for the jabs through the pharmacy but BMI is not high enough.

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FatnFedUp199 · 17/08/2025 17:53

To add I dont have much help with DS so not like I can just pop to the gym in the evening while he stays with Dad or anything. My parents try and help at weekends when they can but I'm then usually trying to sort things in the week I haven't had chance to do like chores or a project at work.

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Glitchymn1 · 17/08/2025 18:01

Not for everyone but the only thing that works for me (I’m 47) is intermittent fasting. 16:8 or for as long as I can fast. I’m vegan so have beans/pulses but presume you aren’t so won’t bang on- I eat the usual food but only at around noon and again at 5pm. I have the ancient and brave plant collagen too- game changer for me. Lots of water, little exercises around the house- squats etc wall Pilates.

I can’t do the shakes, but a friend has recently lost weight using Willpowders keto creamer coffees, plus the bovine broth shake with plenish coconut milk- again all that’s worked for her.

Give yourself a break though, friend has no children and I have one DD 9- I was size 8 before her and spent many a night pigging out! I had a lab so lots of walking, but it’s really hard!

Notmyreality · 17/08/2025 20:09

Start small with just one thing - reducing then cutting out the snacks is a big one. Then cut carbs. Then start walking.

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