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Was it fair?

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munat · 17/08/2025 11:58

Our family of four booked an Airbnb with my friend for a week. She told that she will take part on the accommodation expenses. Well then her friend was coming in the middle of the week and camping in a tent on the Airbnb grounds. This was all planned. When I was discussing about her paying her part she said she goes to tent as well for three nights and therefore won’t pay for those nights. She would have used our toilet and shower. I didn’t agree so the friends went to camping site. I got my money though as a sham I don’t have much money and had calculated her contribution to the total cost. She spent three days in camping site. I am not happy as she still thinks has right.

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Crunchymum · 17/08/2025 14:37

How much are we talking about financially here? How did you work out who pays what and did friend agree?

I guess you need to decide if the friendship is worth the actual financial cost. And if things are so tight how were you planning to fund the Canaries?

munat · 17/08/2025 14:51

We are talking about £220, the fifth of the total accommodation cost.

canary trip would be paid by Dh but I am not going anymore.

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munat · 22/08/2025 09:15

we are back from holiday and my friend is pissed off. Apparently I should have known she has a free room at their relatives which should have reduced her reliance on our Airbnb

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ohbee · 22/08/2025 09:36

munat · 22/08/2025 09:15

we are back from holiday and my friend is pissed off. Apparently I should have known she has a free room at their relatives which should have reduced her reliance on our Airbnb

Where did the relative house come into it? I thought the alternative was a tent

munat · 22/08/2025 09:38

Well that was apparently on the background. That would make it easier for her pick and mix

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ShyMaryEllen · 22/08/2025 09:56

Did the AirB&B owner know there was going to be a tent in the garden? We’ve recently stayed in one that made it clear that bringing more than the stated number of people would result in a fine (expressed as a surcharge), and even an extra dog would cost £75 a night. I can’t imagine pitching a tent in the garden being acceptable at all.

That aside, if you agree to share a cost you don’t change your mind at the last minute.

munat · 22/08/2025 09:59

It was relatives Airbnb so we had permission for a tent

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MamaElephantMama · 22/08/2025 10:00

Is the tent even allowed? Some hosts would not agree to that.

MamaElephantMama · 22/08/2025 10:04

munat · 22/08/2025 09:15

we are back from holiday and my friend is pissed off. Apparently I should have known she has a free room at their relatives which should have reduced her reliance on our Airbnb

She sounds like a bit of a cheap skate. If she could get a free holiday elsewhere then she shouldn’t have agreed to come with you.

Loubylie · 22/08/2025 10:07

Your friend's behaviour was really annoying. But if you love her and enjoy her company I'd let it go. We all have our quirks. If you don't love being with her, I'd let the friendship fade away.

munat · 22/08/2025 10:08

Loubylie · 22/08/2025 10:07

Your friend's behaviour was really annoying. But if you love her and enjoy her company I'd let it go. We all have our quirks. If you don't love being with her, I'd let the friendship fade away.

She doesn’t let it go

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Shinyandnew1 · 22/08/2025 10:09

Presumably you know her well enough to have invited her in a family holiday with you? Does this behaviour seem out of character?

I'd stick to family holidays going forwards.

munat · 22/08/2025 10:25

Yes it seems out of character. I have known her for 38 years. I wrote to her that we must agree to disagree.

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ShyMaryEllen · 22/08/2025 11:22

munat · 22/08/2025 09:59

It was relatives Airbnb so we had permission for a tent

In that case your friend is out of order. Money aside, I would struggle to be friends with someone who behaved so thoughtlessly - it’s very disrespectful and selfish to change the costs for others in that way, and let you pay for the convenience of having bathrooms and so on while she carries on using them.

ohbee · 22/08/2025 13:22

munat · 22/08/2025 09:59

It was relatives Airbnb so we had permission for a tent

Your friend agreed to pay a share to her relative air bnb?

OP there is so much here that isn’t clear. Can you start again?

munat · 22/08/2025 13:30

Omg my friend just can’t understand that she is wrong.

she said to me that she can’t trust on me anymore paying afterwards. I said that’s fine I think we should pay beforehand to avoid sudden changes. She said that’s fine I am calculating person and blocked me

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munat · 22/08/2025 13:31

Omg my friend just can’t understand that she is wrong.

she said to me that she can’t trust on me anymore paying afterwards. I said that’s fine I think we should pay beforehand to avoid sudden changes. She said that’s fine I am calculating person and blocked me

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munat · 22/08/2025 13:35

So that I am calculating

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