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WhatsApp: did he unblock me?

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 00:05

So my first boyfriend and I had a terrible break up in 2019. He blocked me on everything and that was it, I never heard from him again. On WhatsApp, his profile picture went grey, status disappeared, and obviously no 'last seen'. Completely dead. My last message to him remained on two grey ticks, so sent but unread before the blocking.

I have never deleted chats saved on my WhatsApp and thus have many going back to 2015. I like to scroll down when I'm bored and see if anyone's changed their picture just out of curiosity.

Well tonight I did my little scroll and....said ex boyfriend suddenly has a profile picture. No more grey person. It's a very old photo though, probably 10 years old. I click on their profile and they suddenly have a status that's dated 2023. However, there is no 'last seen' and my last message is still two grey ticks.

Now I am late night pondering what this means. Has he unblocked me? But hidden his 'last seen' from me? Last I heard on the rumour mill he was in a very happy relationship, as am I. But I am CURIOUS. It's been nearly 6 years without him showing any awareness that I'm still alive and kicking.

Anyone have a clue what it means? Is WhatsApp just having a weird update or has he actually unblocked me?

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Kinneddar · 17/08/2025 00:07

You can set WA so noone can see your last logged in time. Looks like he's unblocked you but your message was probably deleted years ago so is still showing unread

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 00:13

Kinneddar · 17/08/2025 00:07

You can set WA so noone can see your last logged in time. Looks like he's unblocked you but your message was probably deleted years ago so is still showing unread

Ah yes that's a good point about the two ticks.

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:00

Can anyone else shed some light?

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OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 17/08/2025 10:15

Why are you so interested? He’s moved on, try to do the same.

HelloHattie · 17/08/2025 10:21

Just delete his details. It’s irrelevant unless you want to try and see if he’s interested?

ToveCoco · 17/08/2025 10:26

Oh my god I can hardly believe this is real - there are so many more interesting things to do on your phone, or even in real life, if you're bored.

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:29

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 17/08/2025 10:15

Why are you so interested? He’s moved on, try to do the same.

Very helpful response, thanks😂

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:30

HelloHattie · 17/08/2025 10:21

Just delete his details. It’s irrelevant unless you want to try and see if he’s interested?

I would actually potentially be interested in a conversation with him. It was an awful break up, very sudden blocking over a whole load of nothing really, but I was utterly devastated for a few years. I never got any closure so it would be quite nice to have a conversation and then close the book.

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:31

ToveCoco · 17/08/2025 10:26

Oh my god I can hardly believe this is real - there are so many more interesting things to do on your phone, or even in real life, if you're bored.

I'm sure every single thing you do is incredibly interesting and fulfilling! Plus it takes about 3 seconds for me to glance down my old chats.😂

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YetanotherNC25 · 17/08/2025 10:38

His last seen is off so the ticks won’t turn blue. He’s either blocked you or deleted your name from contacts to stop you seeing his profile pic. Then undone this now. My ex did this whenever we argued.

Why is this important enough to post about if he’s an ex? Do you think he’s trying to encourage you messaging him?
If he was actually interested he’d message you. He hasn’t but you’re letting him live rent free in your head.

Unless he actually messages there no point in thinking any more about this. Nothing has changed. Archive or delete. You’re very unlikely to get the closure you want, just way more stress.

MamaElephantMama · 17/08/2025 10:39

It’s best not to question or read anything into it.

CrumpledBlouse · 17/08/2025 10:42

Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:30

I would actually potentially be interested in a conversation with him. It was an awful break up, very sudden blocking over a whole load of nothing really, but I was utterly devastated for a few years. I never got any closure so it would be quite nice to have a conversation and then close the book.

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I don’t think anything he’s done on his WhatsApp indicates any interest in having a conversation about your breakup, OP. Nasty relationship ends are one of those things we need to process alone/with friends/a therapist.

Disturbia81 · 17/08/2025 10:48

ToveCoco · 17/08/2025 10:26

Oh my god I can hardly believe this is real - there are so many more interesting things to do on your phone, or even in real life, if you're bored.

This is such a weird post, there are so many interesting things to do than you replying to this thread but that’s life.
It’s natural to be curious about people especially those who meant a lot to us.
OP it sounds like he’s deleted your number after all this time, maybe sorted through his contacts. When you delete a number it removes the block.
If he’d just unblocked you to start a chat then he’d have sent something.

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 17/08/2025 10:49

Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:30

I would actually potentially be interested in a conversation with him. It was an awful break up, very sudden blocking over a whole load of nothing really, but I was utterly devastated for a few years. I never got any closure so it would be quite nice to have a conversation and then close the book.

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The fact that you want to get in touch with him 6 years later suggests that he had good reason to block you in the first place.

It's over, it's been over for years. He's moved on, if you haven't you really should. You'll never get what you want from him, closure or otherwise.

londongirl12 · 17/08/2025 10:49

There is a setting so that people can’t see if you have read a message or not. He may have unblocked you ages ago, but doesn’t want to get in contact. Just delete the message and move on, it’s been 6 years!!!!!

NaranjaDreams · 17/08/2025 10:52

Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:30

I would actually potentially be interested in a conversation with him. It was an awful break up, very sudden blocking over a whole load of nothing really, but I was utterly devastated for a few years. I never got any closure so it would be quite nice to have a conversation and then close the book.

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While I can understand this from your perspective, this isn’t a chat to have with him. There’s nothing in it for him, and if he suddenly blocked you, he’s not interested in treading that ground with you.

Talk about it to a friend, or a therapist, if it’s still affecting you. Six years is a long time. There’s no value in holding out hope that he’d go over very, very old ground with you again, or that you’d get anything meaningful out of it after so long.

NewBlueNoteBook · 17/08/2025 10:53

Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:30

I would actually potentially be interested in a conversation with him. It was an awful break up, very sudden blocking over a whole load of nothing really, but I was utterly devastated for a few years. I never got any closure so it would be quite nice to have a conversation and then close the book.

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What “closure” do you think you’d get from
a conversation now?

What is it he could say to you 6 years on that would make you feel better?

The only person who can make you feel better is you.

Speaking to him now will only rip open old wounds and potentially cause problems in your current relationship.

SecretNameAsImShy · 17/08/2025 10:54

Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:30

I would actually potentially be interested in a conversation with him. It was an awful break up, very sudden blocking over a whole load of nothing really, but I was utterly devastated for a few years. I never got any closure so it would be quite nice to have a conversation and then close the book.

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How would your current partner feel about you talking to an ex? I’d leave well alone and get on with your life rather than looking back.

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 10:59

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 17/08/2025 10:49

The fact that you want to get in touch with him 6 years later suggests that he had good reason to block you in the first place.

It's over, it's been over for years. He's moved on, if you haven't you really should. You'll never get what you want from him, closure or otherwise.

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Your first paragraph - what a horrible thing to say! Did it make you feel good writing it?

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 11:01

Disturbia81 · 17/08/2025 10:48

This is such a weird post, there are so many interesting things to do than you replying to this thread but that’s life.
It’s natural to be curious about people especially those who meant a lot to us.
OP it sounds like he’s deleted your number after all this time, maybe sorted through his contacts. When you delete a number it removes the block.
If he’d just unblocked you to start a chat then he’d have sent something.

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Ooh now that could be the answer, that he deleted my number, and that's why his picture has come back. Although I would have thought he'd have deleted my number at the time of the break up - he literally tried to remove all trace of me in a very dramatic fashion 😂

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 11:03

NewBlueNoteBook · 17/08/2025 10:53

What “closure” do you think you’d get from
a conversation now?

What is it he could say to you 6 years on that would make you feel better?

The only person who can make you feel better is you.

Speaking to him now will only rip open old wounds and potentially cause problems in your current relationship.

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He couldn't say anything to make me feel better, but it would be interesting to politely hear his reasoning and then I'd tell him what a immature, nasty cock he was!

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Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 11:05

londongirl12 · 17/08/2025 10:49

There is a setting so that people can’t see if you have read a message or not. He may have unblocked you ages ago, but doesn’t want to get in contact. Just delete the message and move on, it’s been 6 years!!!!!

Now this puzzles me though, why would anyone bother unblocking someone if they had no interest in contact? What would be the point. I can only think that maybe he wanted to see what my profile picture was?! Idk.

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NewBlueNoteBook · 17/08/2025 11:08

Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 11:03

He couldn't say anything to make me feel better, but it would be interesting to politely hear his reasoning and then I'd tell him what a immature, nasty cock he was!

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So you aren’t really wanting closure. You want to get another shot in and revel in having the final say.

That’s not really that healthy.

He wasn’t the one for you, you’ve no doubt learned a lot and grown a great deal as a person in the time since. Happiness is the best revenge, don’t let him take up any space in your head.

VaddaABeetch · 17/08/2025 11:11

Your closure is he doesn’t want to talk to you.
Your closure is that it’s been 6 years.

Your closure is you need to move on.

YetanotherNC25 · 17/08/2025 11:27

Hoopyhoopa · 17/08/2025 11:03

He couldn't say anything to make me feel better, but it would be interesting to politely hear his reasoning and then I'd tell him what a immature, nasty cock he was!

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Sorry OP that’s not closure. That’s revenge or at least the hope that your comments would hurt him. Possibly as much as he hurt you?
No good will come of this.
Listen to the very helpful PP’s and move on with your life. Stop giving him headspace.
I don’t mean this to be cruel, but he’s not likely thinking about you this much. Or even at all. This all could have been accidental.