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I am so so so so sick of my family.

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Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 17:50

They are home from abroad for many weeks and they are on holiday mode. I am not on holidays. I still have my work to do. It breaks my heart my the way. It was impossible to organise my time to get time off from work by the way.

Now only this my work is very demanding of me and I working towards become certified so I was studying online all summer with assignments and deadlines to meet. This wasn't easy. To hold a job and to make time for my family. I did my absolute best and I did make time for them however I get a sense that it's never ever enough and they want more and more.

The week before last I even took a sick day from my work that was fake just to spend a day with my family followed by a while entire weekend of family time too. It still wasn't enough.

Last week, I had a deadline and assignment and all I got was utter disrespect. It began in Friday night where I was kept late. I had plans to go into the city to get peace from my family and sit in a hotel lobby to get my work done. The late night on Friday had a bad effect on my Saturday morning. I got a spoilt attitude on Saturday morning from my niece/nephew and I didn't feel good leaving but I had to.

I came back late on Saturday night to find the parents drinking in the yard and the children just pining for me to come home. This is a problem. In that the parents are on holiday mode every second evening or night and the care of the children is pushed onto me. I love my niece/nephews by the way but this is a problem. The parents not parenting and getting hungover.

Then on Sunday morning they gave their children a choice if they wanted to go touring for the day and they decided no. They left their children with me for the day. They didn't even talk toe or ask me or consult with me.

I had an assignment to complete by the way. I was nearly done but I just wasn't there yet. My deadline was midnight or it was an automatic fail if I didn't submit it on time.

I ran I to energy problems during the day. I was tired and had migraine but I pushed myself through the work I had to do in bits during the day.

I still wasn't done at 9 or 9.30 at night. By then my mother wanted me to do the bedtime routine with the kids. The parents still were not home.

I really wasn't in a position to leave the work that I had to do and I told her this. This resulted in a senile temper tantrum for hours at me. Just anger, hate and hostility while I was trying to get this done. I think at about 11 I just submit whatever the fuck that was there in front of me in the hope of at least getting a pass. It was so so so sklo hard in the sense that I wasn't allowed the space or the time to apply myself to this.

I have more work to do. The original deadline is this weekend but I was lucky to get an extension. I am required to work this weekend too. But my work is being very accommodating I must admit. My family are still pushing the childcare on me without even talking to me. The children are acting up too.

I am thinking with what's in front of me.

I have a rough copy to stuff already written. I am progressing well with my assignment. I have two other assignments to review and edit and add in some more information. I am thinking.

If I was to really sit down and apply myself to this I am likely looking at maybe about 1 hour approximately brainstorming in relation to editing some answers and then typing my work for another hour or two. Then I have another document to review in the same manner.

I am thinking I could actually get this done by Monday if I was to really apply myself. But nope! I won't be given the time or the respect to get this done. I will be able to get little bits done like a paragraph here or there.

The way I am thinking is, what is the point of dragging this out for many more weeks through the period of the extension when I can get this done within a matter of days. When it's done, that's it then. I will be free for as many fucking babysitting nights as possible although possibly not because I will likely go out and getting fucking drunk. I haven't said those words in years but that's what I need. I haven't had a day or a night out since May. Fucking May.

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Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 17:51

I had a hairdressers appointment back in July and I wasn't even allowed to relax for that and I was nearly forced into cancelling that too.

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HelloGreen · 15/08/2025 17:53

Message everyone and say you’d really appreciate their support while you go through this busy and stressful time and that you’re not available for babysitting. Then put your foot down and stand by that!

saveforthat · 15/08/2025 17:54

Didn't you post this before (sounds familiar)

HelloGreen · 15/08/2025 17:54

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 17:51

I had a hairdressers appointment back in July and I wasn't even allowed to relax for that and I was nearly forced into cancelling that too.

And sorry OP but you’re going to have to grow a backbone: you can’t be forced into cancelling. Say no and mean it.

squashyhat · 15/08/2025 17:55

Are they staying in your house? You get hold of them, sit them down and tell them you want them gone by tomorrow morning. Just tell them it's not working for you and they need to leave. And mean it - get the locks changed if you have to. They are taking the absolute piss

WhatNoRaisins · 15/08/2025 17:57

I don't get this, is this your home or shared with them? Do you invite them or do they invite themselves?

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 17:59

HelloGreen · 15/08/2025 17:54

And sorry OP but you’re going to have to grow a backbone: you can’t be forced into cancelling. Say no and mean it.

I didn't cancel but that was expected of me. I had to lie to everyone and say my hairdresser will change me full price for a late cancellation so I might as well go.

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MounjaroMounjaro · 15/08/2025 17:59

I can't really understand what's happening, but it sounds like hell.

Who are these people? Your siblings and their kids? Where are they staying?

I agree you have to grow a backbone to stand up for yourself and protect yourself. Tell us what you want to do tomorrow and what you think they want to do, and we'll find you a way out of it.

Ilikewinter · 15/08/2025 18:00

saveforthat · 15/08/2025 17:54

Didn't you post this before (sounds familiar)

This!

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:00

squashyhat · 15/08/2025 17:55

Are they staying in your house? You get hold of them, sit them down and tell them you want them gone by tomorrow morning. Just tell them it's not working for you and they need to leave. And mean it - get the locks changed if you have to. They are taking the absolute piss

I live with my mother and they are staying in her house.

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Beammeupscotty2025 · 15/08/2025 18:04

Are you the serial poster who hates living with their mother? Nearly 30?

I suggest you move out asap!

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:05

Ilikewinter · 15/08/2025 18:00

This!

That was last week's crap episode.

This is more of it.

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Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:08

MounjaroMounjaro · 15/08/2025 17:59

I can't really understand what's happening, but it sounds like hell.

Who are these people? Your siblings and their kids? Where are they staying?

I agree you have to grow a backbone to stand up for yourself and protect yourself. Tell us what you want to do tomorrow and what you think they want to do, and we'll find you a way out of it.

The children are pining for my time and attention and for me to spend time with them. I am not booked for babysitting and I don't know what their plans are but they usually like going touring or finding something to do and giving their children a choice in what they want to do. If they don't want to do family activities that means a push onto me. But also I am also due to work this weekend too. So my time is being pulled into every direction.

I am looking at what I am facing and really thinking this through and I could get this finished this weekend or by Monday or Tuesday and just get this done and get it out of my way. There's no point dragging this out for many more weeks. I need time to apply myself and just get this done.

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Ohnobackagain · 15/08/2025 18:09

@Pinklittlebaby since when did you turn into the unpaid skivvy/babysitter? I’d leave them to it.

HelpHedgehogsByFeedingThemCatBiscuits · 15/08/2025 18:13

They all sound horrible and very misogynistic.
Can you check into a cheap hotel and just get on with your work?

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:13

I am so unbelievably disappointed by the way with the workload that I have this summer and I would love to spend more time with them but I just simply can't. I am now coming to an end with what was an additional level of stress this summer for me.

There's no point dragging this out over many weeks. I looked at what I have and if I apply myself I can get this done and not spend any more weekends doing this shit.

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Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:15

HelpHedgehogsByFeedingThemCatBiscuits · 15/08/2025 18:13

They all sound horrible and very misogynistic.
Can you check into a cheap hotel and just get on with your work?

I am in work as well this weekend and I just can't check into a hotel. I looked into that last week as an option but hotel rooms and air b and bs were too expensive.

My work is being accommodating to me. It's all just family trying to push childcare.

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RelaxedOddish · 15/08/2025 18:17

Why do you have to work every weekend? And for several weekends in a row?

Did you say when the planned to visit that you would be busy and not available to help with the kids?

I think you need to take yourself off to the library everyday until your work is done. Even if they plan for you to babysit, just leave before they do. They can take care of their own kids

Violetparis · 15/08/2025 18:18

Get up early and go to a library or cafe to work if you can. Tell your family this is what you are going to do and you will not be looking at messages on your phone. Stand up for yourself or this will never stop.

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:19

There's problem in that there's a weekend approaching and there's two days. The children are acting up and refusing to do any family activities with the parents and the children are also wanting me to do family activities. If I was to go on family activities they would go. I am not in a position to do family time with them right now.

The parents will likely leave the children at home again. It's going to be worse this weekend in that I am working.

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Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:20

RelaxedOddish · 15/08/2025 18:17

Why do you have to work every weekend? And for several weekends in a row?

Did you say when the planned to visit that you would be busy and not available to help with the kids?

I think you need to take yourself off to the library everyday until your work is done. Even if they plan for you to babysit, just leave before they do. They can take care of their own kids

I am not working every weekend. However there a lot of demands from my work. I am working this weekend.

I am going to work tomorrow and I just won't be free at all to go anywhere due to times.

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JackJarvisEsq · 15/08/2025 18:20

Just get up and out everyday. Family should be a joy not a chore

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:23

I am looking at what I need to do. If I was to spend about maybe 2-3 hours reviewing some questions and answers and a document tomorrow, followed by similar on Sunday, I could get this done and finished.

However I am also working this weekend and I am going to be tired but this should be doable.

There's a problem existing in that the parents who is a sibling and partner, they are not really consulting with me. They are drinking and ignoring the needs of their children and just pushing it onto the auntie who is me.

I do love my niece/nephews but fuck me I want a break too after my own work. I have my own stuff to do.

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Violetparis · 15/08/2025 18:24

Why are someone else's children not wanting to do something your problem ? You are going out to work, leave them to it.

Pinklittlebaby · 15/08/2025 18:25

The parents got up and left during the week because their children didn't want to do any day time activities. So they just left. Didn't talk to me or ask me to babysit sit and I wasn't even there. It was my mother - the children's grandmother but she wasn't even asked to babysit. The children under 14 just left.

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