Where does your newborn/young baby fall asleep?

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DD is 7 weeks old and every night falls asleep in my arms, I then transfer her to her crib. It’s just occurred to me, should I be putting her down in her crib awake to fall asleep? Will this make it harder as she gets older?

No
Carry on as you are for now till about 3 months old then put in crib at 7pm to sleep and walk away and let baby cry it out if need be for 3 nights then baby should automatically fall asleep at that time thereafter

They need to feel the warmth and love from you from those first 3 months to feel the confidence at 3 months plus to fall asleep alone knowing you love them and are around

Thank you @PeonyBulb, I’m not in a rush to put her down, I love holding her ☺️

@AmIHumanOrAmIAYetitbf I wouldn’t do that and did wonder about that bit! I never let my other two cry it out but they’re 8&6 and I can’t remember where I put them to sleep as newborns 😅

I had to let my second baby DD cry it out at 7pm so I could read DS his bedtime story and within 3 nights she settled down perfectly herself at 7pm so it’s not horse shit at all actually because it worked @AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti

I decided to put DS needs over DD as she wouldn’t remember whereas he would. It worked

I did not need to do that for DS only DD due to family life

Christ alive don't do this.

Even that context doesn’t make it right.

She might not “remember”, but her brain would have been making billions of neural connections every single day. Who’s to say what impact that level of cortisone might have had on her? There’s no way of knowing.

If your son was old enough to remember that you couldn’t read him a bedtime story at bang on 7pm on a few occasions, he was old enough to explain that your tiny, newborn baby needed you. This is also what slings are for.

In an emergency, I could almost understand. This wasn’t. And that you would then strip this down to the minimal elements and actively advise a new mum to do it as though it’s is normal or advisable is absolutely staggering.

If you’re going to spout scaremongering nonsense at least attempt to make it vaguely possible.

Cortisone is a man made synthetic hormone. I think you mean cortisol.

It’s totally normal (and healthy) for babies to be exposed to some level of cortisol and there is zero evidence to suggest that crying causes damage. Cortisol exposure is part of healthy development.

While I’m not advocating leaving your baby to cry for hours, suggesting you need to ensure your baby never cries is absurd and unhelpful to mothers.

Please dont make your practically newborn baby cry it out. My 10 month old falls asleep in our arms (he usually requires bouncing/rocking), hes always fallen asleep in our arms and he will for as long as he needs/wants to. They are small for such a short space of time. All our naps are still contact naps (unless out and about in the car/pram) and I do everything around the house, cleaning etc when hes awake. I understand I'm lucky to do this, if/when I have a second child it won't be as easy! I know I'll miss it when he no longer wants contact naps, so I plan on soaking it up and enjoying every second, and I am x

Okay, I didn’t spot the cortisol/cortisone typo. Shoot me. 🙄

Where did I say babies should never cry? There’s a. World of difference between a few minutes because something else has to take priority and the previous poster’s assurances that no harm would come from leaving a 3 month old baby to cry it out!

Please don't let your tiny baby cry it out. Babies don't want things, they need things. They don't possess the ability to consciously manipulate.
Letting them fall asleep in your arms is absolutely fine and if you do it until they are 2 years old it's also absolutely fine.
There's nothing wrong with showing someone who is entirely dependent on you through necessity that you will respond to them when they need you - in fact that's the basis of a strong and healthy relationship.
The nights are long, but the years are short. It's a really small amount of time to dedicate to making your baby feel safe, regardless of whether they'd remember it if questioned aged 21.

I cuddle my 6 month old to sleep then transfer her. Did the same with my older two also - they’re now 7&4 and go to bed happily on their own after a story and have done since I stopped holding them. i sat with them when I first stopped cuddling them to sleep, then they gradually just adjusted.

She’s so tiny still, I wouldn’t worry!