Can I ask the experienced collective for some advice? I only have DSs so not sure about teenaged girls!
DS has asked my advice and I feel a bit out of my depth
His girlfriend (16) used to self harm and has had suicidal feelings in the past. She has told him and the friendship group that she's passed all this, but has been commenting on a chat forum that she really wants to SH again and feels like she may attempt suicide/further DSH under pressure of exams
She doesn't present as anxious or depressed generally but does have some self esteem issues
He doesn't want her to think he's spying on her or monitoring her in any way but he came across this forum thread by accident. However, he could have not read the messages once he realised, but was worried about her. I don't think he was snooping particularly but I don't know if she'll see it that way
What should he/I do?? I don't know her parents but get the impression they're quite strict (but I don't think uncaring in any way). Would you tell her he'd seen the messages or be more roundabout