When DC goes on holiday with another family

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How do you pay their way? I have paid for flight and given spends for food. he is 17 so not going to be doing day trips or theme parks. Do I offer money towards the villa cost? Give them money directly for groceries? Every time I mention it they say we will sort it out so it is likely to end up that awkward back and forth. I would like to just say here is £x for y and leave it at that!

I paid for flights and gave money so he could cover his share of meals The accommodation costs didn’t increase because of DS going.

When we took other kids, did the same. We paid accommodation, they paid flights and contributed towards meals.

Not sure about divvying it up, but just a heads up to check travel insurance too. Does his cover him when not travelling with family? Our family annual cover didn’t work for kids when they travelled apart from us.

We never took any money when we took other people’s DC away. When DS went away with his girlfriend’s family they refused any money because they said it was very entertaining watching him eat - they’d never seen anyone eat so much. I think we bought them a good bottle of Scotch.

My DD went away with her friend’s family this summer. I paid for her flights and transferred some funds for food, drinks, days out. Then bought the family a thank-you gift afterwards.

My daughter went away with her friend a few years ago. It was camping in the UK but I gave them £250 to cover days out and males et cetera, as they were away for 10 days.

By "sort it out" don't they mean they're paying?

If I took a DS's friend on holiday, I'd expect to cover all expenses except personal spending.

If DS was going with another family. I'd ask point blank what they want from me, but take it at face value if they said nothing, then send him with enough cash (and instructions) to buy drinks/ice creams etc for everyone..

That's all really helpful thanks. I will ask what they think they need and transfer money, but not offer to pay towards accommodation. And a thank you gift!