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can't stop thinking about a man on the train

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duckydoo234 · 13/08/2025 23:05

I'm 50-ish, female. Recently single, though totally ready for something new. I met a man on the train the other day, 60-ish. Got chatting and for about 15 mins it was absolute magic. I'm a nerd, he's a nerd, we talked nerd stuff, superficial but also some pretty deep content. Intense eye contact, each of us laughing or smiling at the right time. Anyway, my stop comes up. I tell him what a pity that we've just got started, but I'm about to get off. I really meant it. He seemed disappointed, said it had been a pleasure talking. I think he meant it. As I got off the train, my immediate thought was that we would absolutely meet again - it just had to happen.

Just looking for fun responses here. I might never see him again. My desire will probably run out in another few days. It would probably have been weird, given the short time-frame of the encounter, if either of us had asked to meet again, exchange phone numbers etc. But I still can't stop thinking about him.

For background, I'm a jeans and t-shirt kinda girl, he was suited and, em, posh (but not at all condescending). Also - though probably irrelevant - he mentioned he's autistic. Will we meet again???

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Larose123 · 14/08/2025 03:08

If it happens to you again or you meet him again I would ask for his number! Why not? You have nothing to lose and YOLO!

ChangingWeight · 14/08/2025 03:15

He seemed disappointed, said it had been a pleasure talking.

sorry to be a downer but in 2025, if he really wanted to continue the conversation and get to know you better, he would have asked for your contact info. Or at least arranged a follow up, eg “coffee at Costa this weekend?”

So if he really wanted you, he would have ensured he would see you again. It’s not weird to ask someone that you likely won’t see again, if they want to stay in touch. Especially not an experienced 60+ year old man. He’s not a virginal teenager.

But I still can't stop thinking about him.

sure but don’t let your mind run away with fantasies. He could have been perfect, or he could be a prick with terrible hygiene etc

DangerQuakeRhinoSnake · 14/08/2025 03:41

So if he really wanted you, he would have ensured he would see you again.

Not true at all. OP didn't ask for his info either.

A bit of fun to leave it to chance in a way. Like testing fate!

I hope you see him again soon OP.

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IhateHPSDeaneCnt · 14/08/2025 03:56

Sounds a lovely story and perhaps, beginning?!! You're of similar ages so we're probably embarrassed to exchange details immediately. In ye olde days you would have had business cards (with work, not personal contact details) but I can't imagine being so forward as to ask to exchange numbers! Hope to hear back that you both accidentally booked the next scheduled train, carriage, seats and lo and behold, another MN Wedding! I'd like a little notice so I can get Philip Treacy started on my hat however, given previous big wedding examples, perhaps I'll just get a nice blow dry!

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