Am I irrationally annoyed?

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When I say "annoyed", I mean miffed enough to raise an eyebrow, not raging 😆

I've been to a thing tonight where I was competing. BF was also there but competing in another group and with plans to go out to eat with team mates afterwards. All good, I saw him yesterday, we had lunch today, and are away this weekend. He can have an evening off! Usually at these events there's a bit of a mingle afterwards but we don't mingle together as we both have other people to catch up with.

Tonight I was chatting to a man I've met before when I went to an event out of town, but none of the other people there, including BF, knew him.

Unusually, BF came and kissed me goodbye as he left with his team mates, interrupting our conversation to do so.

Nothing wrong with coming and saying goodbye, a peck goodbye is perfectly nice too, but don't be marking your territory!

YABU, I think it’s lovely.

Interesting. What's lovely about making a point of making sure a stranger knows I'm "taken"?

Can’t help but think the thread would have been ‘My BF left a mutual event without even saying goodbye’ if he hadn’t done this!

I don’t think he was marking his territory. Why do you think he was? Were you flirting with the other man …or wanting to?

Well, it depends if he was just saying good bye or marking his territory. If you weren't interested in the guy/flirting. What difference does it make?

fine to chat to other people, go out after with different groups if you both want to, but a bit weird not to interact/acknowledge each other. At All.

Hmm, but usually he does "leave without saying goodbye". This time, when I was talking to another man, one he didn't recognise, he felt the need to come and kiss goodbye.

It makes absolutely no difference to my "relationship" with the man. It makes quite a difference to think BF felt it was necessary.

Its.not that we don't acknowledge each other, it's that there's 200 people there, we're with different groups and our paths don't cross unless we seek each other out.

I don’t think you’re being irrational, I would be disappointed that he was acting differently because of a non threat other male, but also feel a bit objectified and respect him less for that even though I guess he might not see it that way. It would put me right off.

probably one of the many reasons I’m single!

Or wanting to let you know he was about to leave and to show you affection.....
This poor man!
I am widowed .... if someone did this to me I would be delighted.
Get a grip.

Yes, I know and I said it was a mild raise of the eyebrow, rather than true annoyance, but he never wants to let me know he's leaving and show some affection when I'm chatting with women.

Oh dear! A hint of paranoia creeping in!?

Not paranoia, I don't think, but an awakening. I find in middleage I notice some of the "nice" things men do to manipulate us, when I'd have taken it at face value when I was younger.

I am past middle age! - and I definitely think that we need to enjoy what we have and not be looking for ulterior motives.