There is a huuuuge backstory here which I won’t go into but at 40 I hit an aabsolute wall with it all and have refused to be more than civil after a decade of unhinged behaviour, demands, complaints etc.
anyway, the endless bombardment of messages has continued to my husband - streams of consciousness that if unpicked at all are very clearly self aggrandising performances of how amazing she is and how full their life is etc. Then comes the ‘everyone is so shocked you don’t visit more’ etc etc.
she has recently fixated on the idea that our children are being deprived of magical childhood memories with their second cousins who they are apparently with all the time and who are all asking about why we don’t come etc etc (don’t believe this). My husband is weak with this stuff and I know it’ll soon be an issue here and so the TLDR question - is it normal to be not very close with second cousins who you are growing up 6+ hours away from and who you hear nothing from other than second hand messages via a nightmare MIL?