Would you be offended?

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I'm going to sports thing tonight. I'll be competing, it will be over in an hour.

BF is also competing, as are some of his friends from way back who he doesn't get to see so often these days - mostly because of their family commitments.

He's planned to go for something to eat with them afterwards. He did ask me to go, but I said no, go and have nice evening with your mates.

Over the last 24 hours, they've all dropped out, except one who'll let him know later.

He's understandably miffed and said "they need to let me know, if they're not coming I'll come round to yours".

I'm not offended. I known what he means, if he hadn't been meeting them we'd have probably eaten together afterwards, and he might even have been saying "that's what I'd prefer anyway" 😆 but maybe I should be offended to be the option when everyone else has let him down?

No, in that situation I wouldn’t be offended.

I think it’s healthy that you were happy to let him have his evening with his friends. I think it’s a shame they are all dropping out, and think it’s fair enough that he will see you if the last one drops out.

don’t see any issues.

I think if he'd originally made plans with you, then blown you off for his friends, and then said 'i'll come to yours if they pull out' I'd be a bit miffed. But if it was loose and he's just making new arrangements if they pull out, no I wouldn't be offended.

No. I'd not be offended if I liked him.
If he was expecting you to drop any well made plans of going out - that would different

I don’t see any issue with this. You were invited and declined. Now he’s free to make other plans with you.

I’d be more offended if he decided to do something else that didn’t include you now that he’s not meeting his friends.

No - he had plans which you declined to join. Those plans have changed so he’s either on his own or with you. How can you be offended? You weren’t his second choice - he had asked you to come.