How to help GS and dd

[Helpinghand48]

Dd is nasty to GS I can't work out if its linked to her bipolar or if she would be that way regardless. There is no balance she doesn't show him any kindness or affection. I don't want to go to deeply because its upsetting and I don't want the thread about how horrible dd is. I just want to make sure GS is OK. But talking bluntly I would say she's abusive to him.

The gentle approach with dd has been tried already. Im now thinking its time to put my foot down with her. So I want to tell her firmly that she needs to get help mental health wise and she needs to ask for help regarding her parenting and relationship with GS. If she does not do this i will be contacting social services.

Im also aiming to have GS with me for a bit but im not sure how to work it . So that it works for GS and my children to. And for me to be honest.

Whilst its the school holidays im wondering if it would be an idea to have GS 3.5 days a week . That way GS has some time away from his mum. And my children get time without GS. Plus my children go to their dads every other weekend.

But also im wondering if instead of using social services as a form of threat should i encourage her to contact them herself for support.

Any other idea's that may help ?

I would just contact SS and let them deal with it tbh.

good luck.

How old ? I doubt she’d be grateful for your offer and would perceive it as criticism and interference. Is she a lone parent? Do your dc attend same school? Is there any family liaison offer or speak to safeguarding officer about your concerns. SS may offer Early Help or support groups.

Yes everything you just said. I think she would take the criticism. But because she knows I will be taking GS. I can talk to safeguarding at school. I was thinking about trying to push dd to reach out for help herself rather than me reporting.

Are there any Children’s centres, community hubs or libraries offering holiday activities they could attend locally. There are often parenting groups and support workers available but she would need to recognise she needs them. Do Homestart operate in your area? If you think gs is at risk try nspcc for advice.

I don't think she would reach out in that way. I think it needs to be more official. Its something to think about though.

How have you addressed it with her previously?

I have she does seem to get better but then slips bsck.

No I mean how did you raise it with her, what did you say?
What did she say, did she acknowledge there was a problem?

I can't remember to be honest. I know we have spoken about meds a few times.

What do you mean meds?
I meant about her behaviour to him.

I tell her to contact her gp about her meds. Because im thinking she might be nicer to GS. Yes I have said to her she needs to talk to him in a better way and also have some posituve times with him. I have also tried being firm with her as well.