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Left hosp 3 hours ago.. should I go back?

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Cantcopewiththesickness · 12/08/2025 15:00

I’m 8 weeks pregnant and considering termination due to hyperemesis gravidarum. I don’t want this anymore. I cannot cope.

I’ve been like it every day for the past 3 weeks and it’s already enough for me.

I throw up 1-2 times per hour from when I wake-2/3pm, then again (typically a couple of times) in the evening. I’ve thrown up during the night too. Essentially I get a 3-4 hour window where I actually feel hungry and keep food down. If I eat outside of that window, my body projectile vomits it back up within minutes. Eating brings on the most intense nausea and it’s like it doesn’t even fully go down - my body isntantly rejects it. Water/juice I can manage teeny tiny sips but it’s not enough to rehydrate me. I’m surviving on bites off of a banana, some ritz crackers and bits of baguette. That is it.

I also generally feel awful. Head feels awful. I’m so tired and worried about myself. I am so ill.

Went to a&e yesterday morning, they gave me fluids and tried the third lot of anti sickness meds. I’ve only taken 2 tablets so far and just like the other two, they have done absolutely nothing. There is a specific tablet I wanted to try but hospital cannot get hold of it, apparently.

They sent me home but I am just so ill. Realistically, what can they even do? I might have no choice but to end it. I cannot go on the way I am.

I just want to get some opinions on whether or not I should go back, or do I just have to try and plod along and hope I don’t collapse?

OP posts:
justasking111 · 12/08/2025 15:09

Go back, get intravenous fluids would be my advice. Eat during the windows. How much weight have you lost?

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Cantcopewiththesickness · 12/08/2025 15:12

@justasking111 I was told to try to manage symptoms at home but it is so hard. They already gave fluids and said (i think from my bloods) that I don’t appear to be dehydrated but I have absolutely no idea how - I even feel dehydrated. I get 3-4 hours of it being doable and manageable but that is it. Trying to establish if this is a severe case or am I lucky to even get the 3-4 hour window?

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FanofLeaves · 12/08/2025 15:15

Go back (or try another hospital if applicable) and say what you’ve said here. That you will have no choice but to terminate your pregnancy if they cannot offer you proper help and monitoring.

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LlamaNoDrama · 12/08/2025 15:15

Can the GP get hold of them? It does sound bad. I had it too and it's awful but I could at least keep fluids down (as long as it wasn't tea!).

Starlight7080 · 12/08/2025 15:15

Is this your first pregnancy?
It doesnt sound right at all that they have sent you home. You obviously need more help.

justasking111 · 12/08/2025 15:17

Cantcopewiththesickness · 12/08/2025 15:12

@justasking111 I was told to try to manage symptoms at home but it is so hard. They already gave fluids and said (i think from my bloods) that I don’t appear to be dehydrated but I have absolutely no idea how - I even feel dehydrated. I get 3-4 hours of it being doable and manageable but that is it. Trying to establish if this is a severe case or am I lucky to even get the 3-4 hour window?

Honestly you are lucky to get a window. But if it isn't long enough then you can run into trouble. Weight loss, dehydration. Sometimes it's just the first trimester. If you abort now there's no guarantee that the next pregnancy will be any better. I was signed off sick for my first.

OtterMummy2024 · 12/08/2025 15:18

Look up the PUQE (I'm not joking) score chart. I think you would score as high/severe.

There's a pregnancy sickness support group pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/ and they have a helpline for advice.

I had 'dry' morning sickness, mostly, but even that was horrible, I had to be signed off work for a month. I felt too sick to eat or stand, I retched but nothing came up.

It got gradually better for me around 14 weeks, but not every woman does feel better in the second trimester. Midwives will try to fob you off with ginger biscuits and lifestyle advice (rest more!) but you might be able to get a GP referral to obstetrics for better help with anti-emetics.

OtterMummy2024 · 12/08/2025 15:21

The Royal Colleges of midwifery and OBS and gynae have documents sent out online on management of nausea and vomiting in pregnancy. Google it, you should be able to find them, take a copy to your next interaction with the NHS and if they are not following the guidance (eg third line anti emetic) SHOW them the guidance and ask why they aren't following it. You can be really awkward and ask for them to write in your notes that they are going against the royal college guidance.

NapoleonsToe · 12/08/2025 15:26

Go back would be my advice, and insist on a obstetric referral. I had hyperemesis, vomited the entire time I was awake, and was admitted to an obstetric ward for a week for IV fluids. It was a long time ago and medication wasn't really given back then, but it did give me a rest from the vomiting. I'd also agree with contacting a helpline.

Unfortunately my vomiting continued throughout the pregnancy, but it does stop or at least ease up for many people. Wishing you all the very best with whatever you decide.

enidblythe · 12/08/2025 15:32

I had this on my second pregnancy, it s got severe and I was dehydrated, I was admitted and given fluids and some sort of vitamin B drip, it was really helpful. Sorted out the symptoms temporarily so I could think straight for a day. Just to say I was lucky in that it eased by about week week 18

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Cantcopewiththesickness · 12/08/2025 15:39

Yes first pregnancy, currently signed off sick for this week (this is the second full week of being signed off), which is really stressing me. It’s a small company and the others are having to take on my workload during a very busy period.

I will stay at home today and tonight and see how I get on tomorrow. Will probably end up back there, it’s easier for me to think straight now (I’m in the 3-4 window but still haven’t eaten yet). I don’t even know what to eat. I’m usually hungry at this point considering I’ve had no food all day but I don’t feel like anything…

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TY78910 · 12/08/2025 15:55

OP try the early pregnancy unit as opposed to A&E. They will have a bit more of an understanding of pregnancy related issues. A&E will be to pacify your condition, any ongoing treatment needs to be managed by a maternity department

Autumngirl7 · 12/08/2025 15:58

Heartbreakingly I have had no choice but to terminate multiple pregnancies before 9 weeks all due to HG. I was not able to eat or drink anything and was technically “slipping away” (consultants words). Have had every medication thrown me spent weeks in hospitals nothing ever worked for me. I was only surviving on a drip and my kidneys started to fail me.
luckily you do get a window but I know how awful it is so feel for you.
HG is so evil. Sending you strength.

purser25 · 12/08/2025 16:02

My Mother swore by tomatoes on toast when she was pregnant but they can be acidic.

Thirtysomething123 · 12/08/2025 16:03

Go back and ask for more help. It’s horrendous. I had similar and ate some unusual foods in my window of not being sick. I had fluids every now and then in hospital but otherwise made sure I ate whatever and drank in the window. I lost two stone during that first pregnancy. Go back or speak to the GP x

rainbowunicorn22 · 12/08/2025 16:16

It is an awful thing to have, and termination does, at times, seem the only solution. I managed with pureed bananas and very soft vanilla ice cream, which is odd, but someone else I know had pureed apples, which helped them.
From previous posts, it seems now there is online help and help groups which I am sure will help you find a way through this.

DreamingofGinoclock · 12/08/2025 16:17

I can't help with any personal experience but I have seen a couple of high profile influencers speak up about HG on Instagram...try checking out em_clarkson and susiejverrill they have either story highlights or pinned posts that may have very relatable stuff / also point to resources that may help xxx

Clafoutie · 12/08/2025 16:31

Not able to offer much advice but just wanted to say you have my every sympathy. You poor thing. I really hope things start improving for you Flowers

Inmy40 · 12/08/2025 16:33

I absolutely feel for you. I had this years ago and I know how awful and soul destroying this can be. Definitely go back to A&e and as others have said ask to be under an obstetrician. There are good sickness medication out there suitable in pregnancy. I had to try a few to find one that really helped. I was admitted on a drip every other week until 12 weeks but took medication for the entire pregnancy. You need specialist help with HG and to be signed off work long term. I’m guessing they checked your urine. I had loads of ketones in mine so they were concerned. I did feel better but the first three months were awful and I lived on the sofa or in bed and just accepted that that was where I had to be. I hope the hospital can get you stabilised x

Superhansrantowindsor · 12/08/2025 16:34

Go back.
I was also sent away the first time but I got a lot worse very quickly. I was in for about 5 days eventually. IV fluids and injections to stop the sickness. I was off work for five months. HG is absolutely brutal so I really do sympathise. Please, please go back to the hospital. I know it’s a cliche but it was worth it in the end.

Tiree1965 · 12/08/2025 16:45

It might not be a short term answer but I had acupuncture when I was in this situation and then wore seasickness bands until I delivered. It didn’t completely take the sickness and nausea away but it did at least make it manageable.

lavenderanddaisies · 12/08/2025 16:45

Can you get in touch with your midwife? I had hypermesis with my 3rd pregnancy in 2015. I had a lot of admissions to the ward for a drip and anti sickness medications. It was all done through my midwife. I had ketones in my urine and was really unwell. It was a much wanted pregnancy but at times I just wanted it to end. The hg did start to ease after around 20 weeks. I was so bad I couldn’t even swallow my saliva without bringing it back up.
whilst it was a really miserable time I look at my 10 year old now and she was worth it all.
I hope you can get some more support

FiveBarGate · 12/08/2025 16:47

It's awful. I had constant nausea for the first 12 weeks as well as regular sickness and used to have to throw up in a bag driving to work.

I was fortunate I could keep most fluids down even if they made me feel queasy.

I could only manage toddler food in small amounts. But it did improve and the rest of the pregnancy was quite easy.

I found fizzy drinks provided temporary relief - something I'd never normally drink and only discovered by accident.

Fashionlover123 · 12/08/2025 16:52

Oh hun so sorry you’re feeling like this. I was on anti sickness until 20 weeks so understand how you feel. Try to get xonvea from your GP. It takes a couple of days to kick in but is a new anti sickness & the only one that works for a lot of women. It might be your lifeline like it was mine x

MrsBungle · 12/08/2025 16:53

I feel for you. I spent months in hospital. The only bit of relief I got was taking ondansetron. I still felt horrendous but I was sick so often.

my consultant advised that I might need to terminate at 10 weeks with my first. My heart and liver were failing, the ondansetron definitely made a difference.