Feel like a failure :(

[charlottie98]

I have a 3.5 yo and a 1.5yo. Currently really struggling with my 3.5 yo behaviour I feel guilty admitting it

Since he could have tantrums and meltdowns he did. Mainly with us but sometimes it is like walking on eggshells. He doesn't listen which is normal for kids but I feel like to anything and its next level not listening. We've potty trained 9 months but hes still having accidents when hes engrossed in play or an activity and I dont know how to fix it :(

I feel hes slightly behind and seems younger than he is. I think hes too young to raise any concerns. I've always had concerns socially developmentally about him but I dont think anyone will look as he socialises well with us and at nursery anand his speech is improving

Hes also hitting a bit atm? His younger sister me etc. When hes excited or frustrated

My way of discipline is telling off / time out i dont shout. I dint know how to get him to stop the hitting

But I feel like why cant I help? Do people look at me in a shop when he runs away and I have to pick him up and bring him over as he's running from me and the trolley with his little sis in.
Did I not potty train right? Why is he still having some accidents
Why is he hitting for different emotions??

Is this all normal behaviour and im overanalysing or what can I do to help i love him so much and I want to be the best mum ever for both my kids

Wrist strap or buggy if they run away, don’t give squash or fruit shots just water, normal to have accidents if they are engrossed but gentle reminders should help. Book yourself onto a parenting course, remove child from situation if they are hitting.

Can I ask about the fruit shoots/squash ?? How come he does like them so im just wondering!

And is my approach not best? Re: parenting course. Dh says im a pushover etc I just dont really do well with discipline I find it hard ? Which im sure all parents do im not spcial there

Can I ask about the fruit shoots/squash ?? How come he does like them so im just wondering!

And is my approach not best? Re: parenting course. Dh says im a pushover etc I just dont really do well with discipline I find it hard ? Which im sure all parents do im not spcial there

Double message sorry

Do you feel there is any truth in what your husband says about you being a pushover?
I know you said you don't shout but do you lower the tone of your voice? Get down to the child's level and tell them firmly to quit the bad behaviour?
Chasing them around is silly, especially when you have a baby with you - you know they are a flight risk so use reins until they are older and have started listening to you.
With the potty training and accidents, try and take them to the toilet at least every couple of hours, if they are playing, tough, they still go to the loo. Get a sticker chart for every day dry (or every morning/afternoon at first).