I've got a horse.
A new lady moved onto the yard 3 months ago and we got along well. I had been warned that she was a busy body, so was careful around her, but still helped her to settle in etc. She seems to have a large aquaintance network, but I've registered the fact that the only real close friend she has, is the local gossip mongerer, who knows everybody's business and isnt afraid to share it.
During these 3 months she's grown to become like a stalker. Constantly messaging me throughout the day,, wanting to meet up, go out socially and then get our partners involved. She changed her visit times so that she knew I would be there, and followed me everywhere even to the tap to fill a water bucket. It got to the point where she was even whastsapping me when I was in the loo with "where are you"?
I've tried to explain to her that my husband has been really ill, and so is my Mother and I'm her carer. I've got health problems myself and never know how I'm going to be feeling from one day to the next, but she persists in trying to firm up plans and it's just so draining. I just want to cry out please take no for an answer! Im also finding money rather tight, which is something she doesnt, her OH having a sucessful business So she wants to go to expensive venues, that i cannot afford.
I've also got autism so struggle with crowded places and noise/change/ temperatures etc. She just doesn't listen, and I'm very uncomfortable in keep having to lay my life bare to someone who is a stranger really, having had evidence she is a gossip from hearing a few conversations she's had. I don't want my personal/financial situation broadcast to the whole yard.
I've never met anyone like this before, who is so unrelentingly persistent.
I've pulled back and refused invites (with good reasons) and now she's being decidely off with me. I have tried to explain my circs previously, but it's been futile.
Any advice? I don't like bad feeling, but then I cannot cope with what feels like a stalker either. It seems to have gone from good morning to 100mph in a short time, and the speed of it has made me feel somewhat wary.