BF of 8 months is making very long term plans...

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It's nice that he's planning to stick around, but it also feels a bit overconfident that he thinks I am too!

TBF, things have been going well and I don't know why we wouldn't carry on, but also, things happen/change etc.

He's been talking about a special interest holiday, something we're both very keen to do, that would be in March. I found myself thinking if we split, maybe it would be OK to still go as friends because I really do want to go.

And today, he's looking at tickets for an event in 12 months' time.

He is generally a very positive person, sees the best in everybody and every situation and I'm sure that's part of it, but would this concern you, or would you see green flags, perhaps?

Hmm I wouldn't be keen. Just a thought but you'd dont think he's trying to set things up so you have to stick around if he is keener than you, is that possible?

one of these

1. He really likes you and genuinely invested in your relationship. Possible, if both of you very young.
2. You’ve got something he wants and he doesn’t want to lose it. It could be that you are : well off/ financially comfortable, great body, fit his idea of ideal woman. He is making sure you are “fully booked / occupied/ feel obliged “ to stay together.
3. Future faking - to manipulate you into thinking this is deeper than it is/ create false sense of trust.

Test him - tell him you want to go with the flow and not ready to book holidays that far ahead. See how he reacts.

Or he just likes planning and being organised and wants to get things booked at a good price. Maybe he’s budgeting his money and spreading the cost. All green flags to me! I’d take a man who wants to organise things over the many men who wait for women to do it.

We’re not far off September, that’ll be 6 months until March.

For the event, if it’s something you need to book a year in advance, then fine. If you break up and don’t go, he can give the ticket to someone or re-sell it. If you’re questioning all this, then maybe you don’t like him enough? Don’t berate the man for being organised!

This!!! Why be suspicious or act as if you don’t care? You have been seeing each other for 8 months, not 8 weeks.

I would always try to take things positively, and if he turns out to be a dick, then that’s on him, not you.

if you like him and you want to do these things, just plan it. If you are not sure, then say that to him. Communicate, rather than playing games.

Thanks @washinwashoutrepeat! I honestlu clicked this thread thinking the OP was going to say her boyfriend was talking about marriage or schools for kids, not a holiday in 6 months 😂

Indeed, what a bastard.
Wish I had such planning skills. In fact OP if you don’t want him then ill take him thanks.

Yup completely agree with this. I love to have things booked in advance. My man and I have been together 6 months and have been booking things in since we got together really.

If you split you can always sell the tickets or go with someone else. No biggie.

Interesting polarised views because I have considered all these points and (except us being very young) they could all apply, but as others say it is also lovely to have someone who wants to "do" and plan things and who is prepared to do the legwork to make it happen, and who seems to want to spend time with me.

You have to book big holidays and concert tickets in advance...that's how the system works.

They're also things where it would be easy to just go with someone else if you're not together in a years time when the concert rolls round.

From your thread title I thought he was making retirement plans. I hardly think a holiday in six months and a concert in a year is anything to worry about. I don't think it is a red or green flag, simply the way admin works in the modern world!

Eight months seems reasonable? I'd moved in by six!