I’ve been separated for almost 4 years after a 20 year marriage.
There is no other person involved on either side.
We sold marital home, divided the profits and both have now bought our own homes, in our own names.
We share the children 70/30 with me being the main carer as I can work part time and they both have significant additional needs.
I get on very well with my separated spouse, it’s not ideal as having to end a 20 year marriage is hard but we do want the best for each other, so things could be MUCH worse. We actually get on better now that we don’t live together (and realistically because we see MUCH less of each other)
We had a conversation today about our wills, due to a family member having a sudden heart attack.
It occurred to me that we have nothing in place with regard to our wishes should either person pass away. I know he would make sure my house went to the kids and he’d look after it until that point but nothing is actually written down.
We don’t have anything in place regarding our separation so are still ‘married’ but there is no expectation (false hope) on either side that we ever will.
I don’t really want to involve solicitors more than we need to. Neither of us are interested in dating again but I do wonder what would happen if we did?
Anybody the point of the thread, do we go together to get our wills drawn up and also is it odd to do that? Or should it be done independently of each other?
Thanks in advance