This childs grave marker is so poignant - more than usual.

[BlueandPinkSwan]

I came across this photo of this 10 year old lads grave marker and it reduced me to tears.
All markers are sad but this one is something very special in my mind, it is dedicated to a young lad named Matthew Stanford Robison in Salt Lake City.
R.I.P Matthew

I'm disabled and don't like that. It suggests wheelchairs are restrictive when actually they enable freedom. I would hate to be defined by my disability after death. I don't want the most important thing about me to be my wheelchair

I think it is beautiful.

This obviously means something to the family

There is one grave marker I will never forget, it is just a plain rectangular stone rim around a tine patch of ground. It just says David, aged 5 and the date, which was in the 1950s.
Don't ask me why, but that one brought tears to my eyes, and I so much wanted to hug David, and the person who asked for that inscription. I feel like they were really counting the pennies, charged per letter.
I can't show you a photograph, because it is years since I have seen it, and I have seen thousands since, but that one sticks

I see it as he had freedom with his wheelchair and now he has left that for another type of freedom.
Wheelchairs are only a chair on wheels, as you rightly say they don't define the person.
It was his fathers idea so obviously he saw it in a different way again.

Maybe the lad himself had an input into his memorial - A seriously ill child I knew designed their own

Sorry, I think that’s quite creepy. And it’s so obvious it’s imposed on everyone else who visits the cemetery.

I've seen one dedicated to 'Little Ronald' aged 5 months in our local church yard.
There is no surname but the babies and young child graves are maintained by volunteers with flower plantings. I don't know who Ronald was although I've tried to trace him but he sticks in my mind and I take a small posy of flowers once a week to him. There is something about it that has really touched me above the others.

Why is it creepy?

My OH's grave has a quote from a poem by Wendell Berry.

"I rest in the grace of the world and am free."

Many people have told me they find it moving.

So do I.

Aww that’s so lovely.

Mawkish

I’ve seen that before on social media. I understand the memorial was designed or made by his dad. The kid was profoundly disabled and blind so it makes sense.

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There's a headstone locally to a man, his wife and daughter, in small letters at the bottom it says Also their six children that died in infancy_ no names or dates, just that. It's from the 1800s so child mortality was much higher but I think it's sad they weren't even named

I think it's awful. And crass. But it's American, I guess.

As a former cemetery worker, I'd be worried about all the fiddly bits that will break off, and that it'll eventually get off balance and topple over. At least it seems to be bronze so it'll last a bit longer than the stone statues we had at my cemetery.

Grave decorations are very much a matter of personal taste 😅😬

I think it takes a very special kind of person to find judgement and fault in the final resting place of a child.

Cool. My husband died 8 weeks ago. Been knee deep in funerals. I think you're a very special kind of person too.

Then I am very sorry for your loss.

I hope that people treat you with compassion and kindness as you deal with your personal grief.

I just find it so.

Saying on a mainly British forum that you don’t like an American grave stone isn’t being unkind or uncompassionate. She’s not said it to the family’s face, has she?

As it moved you to tears you’ll be glad to know you can now buy a replica and help fund his cause -

https://youtube.com/shorts/ZYR1j-h-yKs?si=evkTJkFvGjAJdJj8

My daughter is disabled physically and learning disabled (currently only 5) and also lives in her wheelchair or other devices in the house. She doesnt talk much - only certain phrases and more babbling. She screamed "my wheelchair!" Distraught when a lovely man had taken it to his van to adjust it. She sees it as a part of her and hates being without it. I suppose people view mobility aids differently but hers are definitely the equivalent to my legs!