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How do I politely decline a Hen weekend?

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Newlydivorcedand62 · 08/08/2025 19:44

I’ve been invited to a wedding in a couple of months which will mean a new outfit and a night in a hotel about 60 miles away. It’s the wedding of an old family friend and I’m honoured that I’ve been invited (my DS has too). I haven’t seen her for a few years as we no longer live near to each other.

I’ve now been invited to the hen weekend too via a friend of hers, the month before. I will know no-one there other than the bride and it’s going to cost more money, hotel, etc. I don’t want to go and can’t afford it either. I feel awful, but I’m going to have to decline. She would like me there so how on earth do I politely decline without appearing a real killjoy, having already accepted the invitation to her wedding? I feel bad. Any advice welcome!

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MaJoady · 08/08/2025 19:45

"Really sorry, I can't make it that weekend. But I'm really looking forward to seeing you at the wedding!"

GoneGirl12345 · 08/08/2025 19:45

Just say "sorry, I won't be able to join you then but looking forward to meeting up with everyone at the wedding xx"

No need for drama.

Campingisnexttogodliness · 08/08/2025 19:45

Could you attend one day and then go home?

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itsgettingweird · 08/08/2025 19:48

“Awwww such a shame but I’m already tied into something that weekend. thanks for the invite though. Looking forward to meeting you all at the wedding”

Ponderingwindow · 08/08/2025 20:05

Sorry, I can’t make it. Have a wonderful time.

you don’t need to say anything else. You are allowed to decline because you are busy, have financial constraints, don’t want to crowd into an Airbnb, or just because the idea of a weekend long hen do makes you want to scream.

Lemonadeat8 · 08/08/2025 20:06

‘I can’t make the weekend but I can’t wait for the wedding!’

DappledThings · 08/08/2025 20:07

There really is no need to make any kind of big deal of it. How do you usually decline something you don't want to do. With a message something like "I'm sorry I won't be able to make it, hope you have a lovely time". This is no different.

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