I feel horrendous

Whattodo76 · 2025-08-08T13:40:48+00:00

Have the rest of the day to last. Can't clean, no motivation. Can't go out for a walk, feel scared to leave the house. All I can really do is watch Netflix but nothing too sad or scary because I cant cope with it. Any recommendations please?

SketchyOtter · 08/08/2025 14:46

I have always (well, for a long time) been really limited as to what I can watch or listen to and can only really tolerate the most gentle things. Can I suggest switching out Netflix for YouTube, and watching people's sketchbook tours, "draw/paint with me" type videos or channels like Green Renaissance that make short, peaceful films (around 15 mins each) of people living calm, mildly alternative lives. I find it a wonderful form of escapism and they are very wise :)

Chell79 · 08/08/2025 14:48

Hi, I'm a counsellor. Do you have anyone you can talk to about how you are feeling? Have you been feeling like this a while, or has it just happened all of a sudden? The only way to get out of a dark mindset is to try to do one small thing a day to push past your limitations. Even if it's small steps of just walking to the little shop and back.

Or try and lift your mood by listening to a podcast, or learning a new skill.

If that doesn't work contact your GP and ask about some counselling/therapy to help process your thoughts and feelings, or even ask for medication if it helps. The fact that you've posted on here means you are seeking some support. There are phone lines you can call if you want someone to talk to. I would recommend the Samaritans

I had terrible mental health after my last relationship ended. I decided to start studying again and it did wonders for my mental health. It gave me a new focus and something productive to do with my time. I completed 5 courses in two years through the learning curve group and some are government funded through the local skills counsel. The focus on those courses stopped me rumminating about my past and did wonders for my confidence when the certificates arrived through my front door.

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Whattodo76 · 08/08/2025 14:54

Chell79 · 08/08/2025 14:48

Hi, I'm a counsellor. Do you have anyone you can talk to about how you are feeling? Have you been feeling like this a while, or has it just happened all of a sudden? The only way to get out of a dark mindset is to try to do one small thing a day to push past your limitations. Even if it's small steps of just walking to the little shop and back.

Or try and lift your mood by listening to a podcast, or learning a new skill.

If that doesn't work contact your GP and ask about some counselling/therapy to help process your thoughts and feelings, or even ask for medication if it helps. The fact that you've posted on here means you are seeking some support. There are phone lines you can call if you want someone to talk to. I would recommend the Samaritans

I had terrible mental health after my last relationship ended. I decided to start studying again and it did wonders for my mental health. It gave me a new focus and something productive to do with my time. I completed 5 courses in two years through the learning curve group and some are government funded through the local skills counsel. The focus on those courses stopped me rumminating about my past and did wonders for my confidence when the certificates arrived through my front door.

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Hello, thank you. No I dont really have anyone to talk to, its incredibly lonely. Ive tried seven different medications over the last 16 years and had 8 different Counsellor's, nhs and private, with different approaches/methods, the last one I saw weekly for two years. Ive had both nhs and private psychiatry. So unfortunately I dont think I can be helped. Ive rung the samaritans a couple of times or emailed them but didnt find it very helpful. But thank you.

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Whattodo76 · 08/08/2025 14:56

I went out earlier but it was awful, people got annoyed with me in the supermarket car park and gave me bad looks, I pushed myself to ask staff a question in the shop and she got annoyed with me. So I dont want to go out again today.

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Chell79 · 08/08/2025 15:02

Sorry to hear you have pushed yourself to go out and experienced that unpleasant experience. Doesn't help if you're already not feeling great.

There is an American website called 7 Cups that I recommend people use. if you are either unable to find support or can't afford therapy, support yourself. They are a listening service for people struggling; you just join the website, and they are there whenever you need them. So is a text service called Kooth.

Therapy, unfortunately, is not a good fit for everyone; it helps some people, for others it doesn't. If I start a session with someone and I feel it will be not be of benefit to them. I have an ethical duty to tell them as some people are open to change, Yet others it is hard to break out of their current stuck patterns.

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Whattodo76 · 08/08/2025 19:25

Chell79 · 08/08/2025 15:02

Sorry to hear you have pushed yourself to go out and experienced that unpleasant experience. Doesn't help if you're already not feeling great.

There is an American website called 7 Cups that I recommend people use. if you are either unable to find support or can't afford therapy, support yourself. They are a listening service for people struggling; you just join the website, and they are there whenever you need them. So is a text service called Kooth.

Therapy, unfortunately, is not a good fit for everyone; it helps some people, for others it doesn't. If I start a session with someone and I feel it will be not be of benefit to them. I have an ethical duty to tell them as some people are open to change, Yet others it is hard to break out of their current stuck patterns.

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Thank you. I am open to change, I've just had a really difficult time.

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ElizabethVonArnim · 08/08/2025 20:31

I’m sorry you are having a rotten time.

I watched ‘Nobody Wants This’ on Netflix recently and it was very nice viewing - sincere and sweet, a bit silly. Nice short episodes so if you’re taking little motion breaks between each episode, you won’t fester too much.

I hope you feel better soon.

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Whattodo76 · 08/08/2025 22:36

ElizabethVonArnim · 08/08/2025 20:31

I’m sorry you are having a rotten time.

I watched ‘Nobody Wants This’ on Netflix recently and it was very nice viewing - sincere and sweet, a bit silly. Nice short episodes so if you’re taking little motion breaks between each episode, you won’t fester too much.

I hope you feel better soon.

Thank you for your kind message, I'll have a look at that.

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whatwasthatnoise · 08/08/2025 22:50

I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.

If you're still looking for something to watch on Netflix, can I suggest Nonnas? It's a quite gentle, funny film and has a good ending. I've loved Schitt's Creek, I've watched the whole thing twice. Or, if you like cooking programmes, I've been watching School of Chocolate. It's a cooking masterclass competition by a chocolate legend (it's American so I've not heard of the top chef) but interesting to watch.