How to word this?

[Mumof2amazingasdkiddos]

I need to inform someone that all further communication needs to be via the email address they have for me. This is due to me changing my phone number and frankly I dont trust them not to pass on my new phone number either deliberately or accidentally to a certain person. Unfortunately I have to make it known the phone number they have for me is no longer valid so I can't just dodge it as a request to switch to email in future.

How do I word this without sounding rude/accusing/etc?

Just that really. Hi could you please keep in touch by email, I’ve had to change my phone number and I’m not giving it out to people, so emails the best way to get hold of me”. No need for explanation about why your not giving your number etc.

It depends on the situation of course, but something like, "Hi, my phone number is no longer valid, I will need to communicate with you via email from now on. Thanks."

I'd just say, 'my phone is out of action so not in use, and frankly I'm glad to be without it for a while! Please only contact me by email on the following address.
Thank you and speak soon xx'

This is perfect.

Thank you, its to my ex husbands solicitor. My solicitor has gone awol and ive a non molestation order against the EXH. His solicitor has been fair and decent when I've dealt with him so I really don't want to be rude but he is being paid by the "enemy" and accidents do happen where info is not redacted so I just feel more comfortable not giving out my new number

I'd hope the solicitor would be duty bound not to pass on your number to anyone, let alone your ex without your consent. But I totally understand your concern.
My suggestion was obviously more aimed at friends, so simply say you're no longer contactable on x number and only by y email. I presume the number won't work if someone tries to contact it?
Hope everything works out for you regarding your (ex) husband. X

@DiscoBob once I swap to the new number the old one goes dead and my concern is that if i dont update his solicitor that my number will be out of action but you have my email, then this will be used as "evidence" by the EXH that I'm blocking him seeing the DC (never mind he hasn't seen them in well over a year and has made no attempts to, his own solicitor actually rang me this week as he couldn't get hold of my ex for several months and I gave him a relatives number, his solicitor then confirmed he had made contact and EXH has a new number and never bothered to update his solicitor, oh the fucking irony!!)
Yeah i agree I'm overthinking it 🤦🏼‍♀️

Gawd, your ex sounds awful. Well done getting rid. 😁
Just keep it simple. If you want to make sure they understand just say please email me back just to confirm you've got this message.
It will be fine I'm sure. X

@DiscoBob oh I could write an essay and thoroughly derail my own thread on what an absolute c* my exh is but instead I'll take a breath and say thank you, I hadn't thought of requesting an email to ensure they acknowledged the message and confirmed they have the correct email address to avoid any arguments in the future that I hadn't told them etc...!

Yeah, email them and ask for a reply. Then there's proof.
Now, relax, have a gin and tonic and some crisps and sit in the evening sun. (Or any other drink/snack/location you love) X

Ah. Well, it is easy then. Tell them that you need to keep a written record of all communication so that you can remember what has been discussed, therefore they can contact you only on this email address and by no other means.

You could also mention that the phone number they have for you is no longer in use and should be removed from their records.

Job done.

Hello, I will no longer be reachable at 72626263733 and ask that all further correspondence goes to my email - email@email

Thank you everyone, it's so so simple seeing it typed out in your words. I just got too into my own head about it which logically I can understand why after years of gaslighting and manipulation BUT thanks to the amount of healing I've done I'm not annoyed at myself for. I took a step back, I asked for help, help was given by complete strangers who took the time out of their lives and I now have a very simple message drafted that is polite and factual.
Sincerely I thank you all and I am indeed going to take the advice of having a drink (vodka and fresh orange) snack (ice cream as the DC have had all the crisps lol) and lounge on the sofa feeling content and safe and knowing that if my brain breaks again that I have people who live in my phone to help me ❤️
Mumsnet at it's very best right here, strangers taking time to help with something that should have been really a non issue without a single negative comment, rare to find on posts these days sadly x

Oh bless you @Mumof2amazingasdkiddos we're glad to help.

@slightlydistrac the message was sent this morning and reply recieved pretty instantly so I'm now sat feeling bemused tbh that i made it such a big thing in my head when actually (and only thanks to you and the others who kindly took the time to post) it was incredibly simple and is done and dusted!
I am normally a very intelligent woman lol its amazing what years of abuse, gaslighting, manipulation and then brain fog thanks to good old peri can do to a girl and her ability to see the wood for the trees 🫣😂