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How does this work for academic year/university?

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kmo0416 · 08/08/2025 05:55

If someone was born in August of 2006, that means that when they were at school their classmates were born between September 2005 - August 2006.

Anyone born after August 2006, was a year group below them; anyone born before September 2004, was a year group above them.

Growing up, a person born in August 2006, would have been socialised with their age mates ie those in their year group. They would have done GCSEs/A-levels at the same time; gone to university at the same time (unless they didn’t go or took a gap year); would have taken part in the same championships and competitions due to the same age etc. This means they would have much in common.

When someone born in August 2006, was at school and in say, Year 13, for example, they would have likely thought they had much more in common with other Year 13s than someone in Year 12, even if that Year 12 was born in September 2006 (so only a few weeks after them).

This is as such person, even though a few weeks younger, would have been behind in terms of a year of education; would not be eligible for the same championships or competitions if they were based on year group etc.

All of this leads people to strongly identify with their academic age mates.

So, I wonder how this functions in university. Imagine if someone took a gap year and so the majority of the students in their cohort were not their age mates so a year group below, even if only a few weeks or months younger, they would not be their age mates. So, would this mean that such a person would profoundly find it difficult to relate to or understand such people because they weren’t part of the same academic year group?

How hard do you find it to relate to people who are not your age mates?

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Serencwtch · 11/08/2025 20:26

kmo0416 · 11/08/2025 17:06

This might sound a bit odd, but it’s also because when we were doing our GCSEs in 2022 on TikTok, people were sharing their reactions to how they found the different exam questions because everybody in the country was doing the same papers if they did the same exam board; and everyone was sharing memes and jokes and it was like a massive moment of shared socialisation - a collective experience. This year’s Year 13s weren’t involved as they did GCSEs in 2023 so, for instance, I couldn’t relate to them on that and they wouldn’t understand the inside jokes we had which still are sometimes brought up on TikTok 3 years later!

Once you're a grown up these things really don't matter.

You will look back on your school days & cringe & laugh at yourself.

Once you settle in at college/uni/work you genuinely won't give a toss about what you watched on tik Tok at school. In fact you will meet people who have never used tik Tok & will meet people who talk about & have experiences of things that you have never heard of.

NewBlueNoteBook · 11/08/2025 22:46

everybody in the country was doing the same papers if they did the same exam board

No, everyone in the country was not sitting the same exam papers.

All the English students yes.

Not Northern Irish.

Not Scottish students (they weren’t even sitting A-levels)

And every single UK uni will have considerable numbers of international students.

Shared jokes about A-levels from social media aren't going to be on the table.

This focus on seniority and superiority is neither helpful or healthy.

You’ll start again at the same level as everyone else and proceed at your own pace.

Bear in mind the kids who did best at school arent always the ones who do best at uni. It’s a whole new ball game

borntobequiet · 12/08/2025 09:33

Very few people socialise only with their own year group in school, for all the reasons given so far.

What surprised me as a teacher was older girls (particularly Y11/12) going out with younger boys (Y10/11, even once Y9). These boyfriend/girlfriend pairings weren’t common, but they did happen, seemed happy and were apparently accepted by all.

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TeenToTwenties · 14/08/2025 11:36

@kmo0416 How did you get on? I really hope you got the grades you wanted and will now move forward and accept an offer for this September.

TheGlamour · 14/08/2025 11:37

Absolutely!

(Though October would be good news! Only because the OP might find it more satisfying than they can currently contemplate.)

BunnyRuddington · 14/08/2025 18:19

I hope you’ve got the grades you need @kmo0416Flowers

NeverDropYourMooncup · 14/08/2025 18:39

kmo0416 · 08/08/2025 06:14

But even if you throughout your life you end up working with and socialising with people of different ages, to what extent, do you fundamentally “click” with someone of your age group?

For instance, imagine if you are 55 years old born in August 1970. Would you instantly click with people born between September 1969 - August 1970 and see them as “one of you” while finding those born in 1971, 72, 73, 74 etc a bit different? Even if you eventually get to know them well and get on with them, is there still a bit of initial awkwardness?

Edited

Why would you know their birthdate? I know roughly that they're around my age, but I'm not about to demand the details to decide whether I want to be their friend or not.

OK, I did have one boyfriend for whom it was very important, but that twat referred to me as an Older Woman because I was born mid January and he was born exactly 61 days later in March. I don't think he appreciated how much I laughed when he said that in public - especially when I told him you wouldn't even get a litter of kittens in that time frame as everybody in the group started recoiling from his idiocy.

Basically, once you're past the point of needing to have a fake driving licence to get served in pubs, nobody particularly cares.

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