Miscarried again but hospital won't do anything for now

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Chemical pregnancy at Xmas

Pregnant again in March, but at 12 week scan in May, baby had died and was size of a 6 week fetus, so think it had died around 6 weeks. Had to have surgery to remove the tissues (and had a haemorrhage) as there was no bleeding and no idea anything was wrong with the pregnancy.

Pregnant again and paid privately for a scan at 7 weeks, last week. Baby had died. But no bleeding, would still think pregnant if hadn't had private scan.

But NHS won't "surgically manage" this miscarriage till they have done their own scan. Private scan does not count for anything. Scan is on Monday. Then they will operate.

Midwife at GP surgery can't arrange a scan any sooner - already spoke to her.

Told to go to A&E if things get worse.

But basically just walking around with a miscarriage inside.

Any advice?? Thank you

Wait for the NHS scan.

I had miscarried before my 12 week scan, and then naturally passed the miscarriage in the week between scans before they decided on treatment.

I was given the option to wait or have medical management and waited. I’d do the same again. So in your shoes I’d probably wait until at least 12 weeks before having surgery.

I am worried though that I might get sepsis or something now the pregnancy is "over". And has been over for a week now.
Do they make you wait due to passing the pregnancy naturally being obviously less invasive than surgery?

Thank you for replying and I am sorry you went through that x

Unfortunately this is very common for women to miscarry without knowing. It’s happened to me many many times. My body doesn’t seem to process it, so I always have surgical management. I’ve always waited for the NHS scan to confirm after the private and in my experience they book you in very quickly after it’s confirmed (which it looks like they will do with you having booked you in). I’ve never heard of a missed miscarriage being linked to sepsis, is this something they told you at the hospital?

To be honest I think you just have to wait if that’s when they can fit you in. Just bear in mind that even after that you might have another wait for the op. The last one I had I think it was almost a week before they had a slot in the schedule .
You almost certainly wont get sick in the meantime, though I know it is a horrible feeling and I was pretty keen to get into surgery and just draw a line. Some women wait many weeks to miscarry and they don’t get sepsis, but I know it is emotionally tough to go that route. I couldn’t do it while working etc.
The alternative is to go private - some insurance will cover , though mine will only help if a GP refers.

All you can do is wait.

The NHS has a process they have to follow before they declare a miscarriage. They won't take private scans in place of that. 1 reason for the wait is to allow the body to natural process the miscarriage as it is by far the preferred option for the body to go through. The other is to make sure if it defiantly a miscarriage.

I've been there (twice) and its so hard to do the waiting. With my two MMC I had two scans a week apart before they would even consider talking to me about options even though it was very clear my baby hadn't developed pasted 5 weeks (I would have been 8 weeks the first scan). You can also opt for medical management over surgical depending on the size of the baby - I went through this the second time (first passed naturally the morning I was suppose to get my medical tablets) as I didn't want surgery.

Im sorry about your losses. The NHS process for missed miscarriages is what you've experienced. They have no way of determining the quality or accuracy of a private scan so need to do their own (in my case it had to be two NHS scans before they could discuss intervention).

Once you get past the scan/diagnosis point the options they normally present are expectant miscarriage (to wait for your body to handle it "naturally"), medical management (a pill/pessary combo that forces your body to expel the tissue) or surgery which you've had before. The options they give you will depend on how far along you were, local protocols and your own history etc.

Id be aware that wait times will differ for medical vs surgical if that sways you, but to move faster you would most likely need to go private. For three losses in quick succession they may also want to chat to you about tests available and support for future pregnancies.

Im sorry there isn't an alternative bar private care that I know of.

Thank you all for the messages and sorry that it has happened to so many of us 😔

It is a horrible feeling being pregnant but knowing that there is no living baby, I am just carrying one that has died.

Because this is the third pregnancy loss in a row, they did say they want to take some tissues for analysis.

I am not sure it will pass naturally as I carried on thinking I was pregnant for around 6 weeks when the baby had already died but can see that passing it naturally would be preferable. Don't normally want to have surgery but feel like I am in a dreadful state of limbo at the moment, neither pregnant nor am I not-pregnant.

I was worried about sepsis due to still carrying the pregnancy when it's over (I read that if the placenta doesn't come out after a normal birth it can cause sepsis) however reading on here that everyone has been in similar situations and this is normal for the NHS within its guidelines then I guess it is not an issue.

Thank you for your responses. This feels like hell and the next few days are going to be dreadful.

I just want them to do a scan so I can move forward. I do understand that they (NHS) might want to do their own scan as quality can vary but I just wish I didn't have to wait almost a week for it.

I have no advice. Just wanted to say that I am so so sorry you’re going through this.

Thank you xx

It is absolutely horrible, we had tried for a baby for a year before the chemical pregnancy
And then was so pleased to know we could get pregnant even though it was a chemical pregnancy.

Then the miscarriage was horrendous and came as a total shock as symptoms such as morning sickness were much more pronounced than with the chemical. It was awful knowing the baby had died 6 weeks prior but was still carrying it round and feeling / looking pregnant. And having symptoms of pregnancy.

But were reassured that 1 in 3 pregnancies ends in miscarriage. Decided to pay for early scan "just to be on the safe side" this time. And the baby has died at the same time as last time, at around 6 weeks.

Thank you very much for your kind message xx