Dont know wether I’m going to be good at explaining this but here goes
Been with DP for 21 yrs he 70 me 67 and in the past some of our discussion's have ended turning into arguments, not good I know.
Each of us I suppose wants to know that the other person knows exactly what they mean so may repeat what we’re saying and go round in circles extending the argument
Anyway I noticed recently the dp will not discuss anything for more than say 5 mins. I feel he just wants a quite life, go about his day without making any decision
eg,
He will ask are you going out for lunch
I’ll reply with, where shall we go
Im. Fuzzy plain eater but he knows the handful of places we usually go to that we both enjoy
but he won’t decide, even when I say you choose
Meals are another he won’t engage in (he shops)
it ends with him saying , you can go later
If I mentioned to him something in the house needs doing he will say
I’ll sort it, note taken
It never gets done !
Recently had couple jobs in garden done
so I wanted to finish off what needed doing, I did it with a bit of help from him (after he came of social media) . I said I’ll order the stones
was met with. What’s the rush. We’ve just had couple of jobs done
Now all the ground cover I nailed in the ground (ready for stone) is ripped all over !
Its got left. Once again
I organised a guy to come round to estimate shower that badly needs doing
He gave estimate and dp even said he was a nice guy. That’s it 2weeks on nothing from him
He won’t discuss anything because he doesn’t want to argue,
He will cut me short in a sentence with
right, I get it end off. So abruptly
Recently I told him I’m started swimming again
so I put it on calendar to remind him
I put M & W
so he turns round and says I’ll have T & Thurs and he goes tennis Saturday
where he could quite easily have the same as me. He still goes out on the days I do anyway
I just don’t understand, I’ve pulled him on it and he’s just said there your days
Its got to the point now I’m bloody glad I don’t go out with him for 5 days a week
He want come up with any ideas , it’s always in my car(especially if I suggests a place)
Its the no interaction:interest about anything that
pisses me off. It’s like he’s only interested in his own agenda.
kitchens unit are 21 yrs old. No interest yet he can think of spending 17k cash on a car