Can't be arsed to babysit

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I know im being selfish but I really cant be arsed to baby sit. But I cant really say no i have already delayed it . Plus I haven't baby sat for about 3 weeks. And dd ,ds and friends have made plans.

It will be over night as they are drinking. So it effects tomorrow as well. My living room is a shit tip.i have to tidy and make it toddler proof . I really cant be arsed.

It sounds stupid but im having a tidy up get rid of stuff week. And I have set my mind into a certain pattern. Of do kitchen. Sort out under the stairs then sort out my bedroom. Etc. Living room was being done last. I know that sounds stupid . What's the big deal if I do it today instead. I dont know why but it really throws me off. Plus on top of that its 2 days messed up.

I guess I don't want to loose my motivation.

Im still going to baby sit though.

You sound like a really kind mum and grandma. Your dd has bern very lucky. Maybe one day soon you need to sit down calmly with your dd and tell her what you're telling us. You've been hands on for many years and now you're just too tired for overnights.

I have to say a flat out NO sorry i cant think of anything worse than having responsibility for anyones child.

They have just gone. Dd wanted to stay so she can go in the pool. Then pointed out that they can't in a few days because my younger kids wont be here. I still stuck to no though.

Why can’t she go in your swimming pool in a few days? I don’t understand.

Because my younger children go to their fathers house. In a couple of days time. And I won't let dd and her children over then . As I want to be on my own.

How many children are involved here?

Have you never come across people who do shift patterns?

I’m sorry if missed that but I don’t think you’d explained that anywhere. I’m sorry again.

Of course but surely some of them would have a mom - fri job? It’s was 2 adult children plus friends?

No reason to say sorry. I may not have been clear. Its easy done when typing away. Distractions etc.

Everyone saying don’t babysit you’re not obliged, then I’m sure you wouldn’t care if the children turned round and said I won’t look after you in your old age. Family is family, you bought your children into existence, if you didn’t want to help- within reason!- why have kids and benefit from grandchildren etc. you bought a child into existence, to an extent you absolutely should help with childcare. Why wouldn’t you want to make your children’s lives easier! Be happy you have a son and daughter that are happy and get on and a big family. Some people don’t even have that

I agree the key word is within reason

Fair enough, but you did ask "Don't any of them work?"

It's not unusual for shift workers to socialise with other shift workers either.