is it me or my husband drives me mad

[blueskies18]

Okay here is what happened today: My husband was planning to meet his friends coming over from USA. This was their forst stop before they travel to to somehwere else. Nice friend knows them for decades. They palnned to come here to say hello and take the kds to the museum. I said I did not want to come to the museum and it is unfair to ask them to come over for a quick hello. Anyways, I did not get involved with the planning. They met at the local park and came around when our toddler was about to sleep. I offered them tea and coffee and hoped they theu would go to the museum and I iwll have some quiet time as I was craving for it. AFter the coffee, they said it is OK if they do not go to the museum as they wnat to see other museums in the town and not bothered with this particular one. My husband just decided to order some food - even if it wa not lunch time. anyways.. I did not like the idea but I was OK, I want to host people in different and proper way. The food arrived but he did not initiate to serve, I took the plates out and served, I also had to take care of the toddler who has waken up by now. I then said we should have done this properly not this way.. I got annoyed because I feel like he forced me or found myself in a situation that I did not want to be . I had told him that I did not want to meet wanyone and need some quiet time. I feel so bad being a bad host and my so called husband has not said anything, neither did I. So no talkss yet..

He was lazy. Poor planning. He shouldn’t have ordered food or should have taken them out for food elsewhere. You would’ve helped yourself if you’d said to him beforehand that you don’t want them here all afternoon etc and only wanted a quick hello!

I mean as a one off you probably could have made an effort with his friends he’s known for decades and came from so far away. But then on the other hand we don’t k is the backstory and if he hasn’t form for putting you in situations you don’t want to do and making you “serve” him while he carry’s on not bothering to help or parent

i am mad becasue he put me in a situation that as if I did not want them around. If only he was open and upfront planned it propelry I would have been OK> they came all the way and he said we are good friends and no need to plan it. I said I did not want to come to the museum. We could have had a proper lunch if he was so open and planned. One the one hand he does nto like it when i plan ebverything and on the other hand, when I dont plan or got involved this is what happened. I am so annoyed with him and with myself. They might have thaught I did not want them around but this was not even planned.

he ordered the food but did not know what to do. I like things in a proper way. I wish we asked them to come around for lunch so simple. It would have been cheaper and nicer to cook for them.

I had told him that it is unfair to ask them to come here all the way from their accommodation to here for a quick hello. He said ohh it is OK, we are good freinds. I also told him that I did not want to see another 1million people in the museum.