3 year olds behaviour

[El86]

Hi,
So to set the scene, we have had a big upheaval within the family/home dynamic lately (I (mum) had to have brain surgery and ended up having to be in hospital for a week!) so I know this will have affected what I’m going to talk about, but…….

My 3yr old (4 in Sept) behaviour is so hard (for me)
She was born a complete Diva and I love every ounce of her. But I am struggling with her constant tantrums, foot stomping, screaming fits, refusing to talk when I or another person asks her something (she just whinges)
If she doesn’t get her way she will scream blue murder! Hit, Kicks, Throws stuff etc

My other 2 weren’t like this at all, very placid, easy to talk to or around when they were upset…. But I feel like I’m constantly on edge trying to make the tiny Diva happy and content that I don’t have adequate time for the others, myself or anything.
I just need some advice or guidance to help navigate
thanks

You need to find a 'naught step' and keep her there for every minute of her age.
Dont let her off until she done the minute and make her apologise to you.

I’ve got one like this. You need to be very firm with them or they’ll have everything their way and ruin things for the others. She will probably push back and dig her heels in like you wouldn't believe. Mine does / did and I have been consistently firm in terms of time out / withdrawing privileges / firm clear tone … she is six and is getting a bit better. She knows I mean what I say and won’t stand for any shit!

And she does NOT get her own way all the time. Even if she kicks off. It’s very easy to give in to kids like this as you want to avoid the fallout of them not getting their way… but you must be strong!