Do you believe what happens on the stag do stays on the stag do?

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Listening to what the stag got up to last weekend I was not impressed.

I'd love to know if his wife to be knows but it's not my relationship so I'm not getting involved.

It got me thinking though do men still see a stag do as a last hurrah so to speak before settling down and therefore what happens on the stag stays on the stag? I remember during my young and single clubbing days there would often be groups on stag nights trying to get as many women as possible to get off with the groom to be. The few hen dos I have been on have been very about pampering/food/dancing, no trying to harass men for snogs, last fling type behaviour.

Are DPs friends are just a bit shit, or is there generally a big difference between stag and hen dos?

There can be a big difference.

Imo women can be just as bad, if not worse

So did your own DP get up to stuff that crossed your boundaries?

If their behaviour was really disgusting and involved cheating then I would be sharing what you know with the other wives, gf and partners and especially the bride to be. She deserves to know what kind of " man". she is marrying.

Bad behaviour and cheating is what it is . Being on.a " stag do" doesn't make it any more acceptable , or, imo , forgiveable..

Absolutely right.

No. Years ago I worked with a man who was carrying on an affair with someone he met on his stag weekend (she was on her own hen weekend). She used to write to him at work, so we knew when the pink envelopes arrived. To my knowledge he had at least two other affairs during his three year marriage. He’s since been married and divorced again. When he was on his second engagement he went to a wedding with another woman, unfortunately for him someone from work was at the wedding, he thought there would be nobody he knew at it. His true nature was clear from that first stag do.

I used to work in city centre bars & nightclubs back in the day. We used to see loads of stag & hen parties. They were equally rowdy, equally pissed & equally likely to end up snogging & groping some random member of the opposite sex. If anything, the women were more likely than the men to be going to strip shows, eg the Chippendales.

This was long before the era of camera phones or social media, however, so the risks of being caught out by incriminating evidence was much lower.

People who aren't scumbags don't use their stag/hen do as an excuse to behave like a scumbag.

It really depends on what happened and how it played out. Everyone’s threshold is different. What I mean by that is some women may find it ‘icky’ that men get wasted and go on club crawls and find it immature or weird. Some won’t. Some men (single) may go off and ‘pull’ but because they’re in a group with some men that are in relationships and the groom, some may see that as a problem, but some won’t. My DP always tells me where they’ve been / what generally happened but not in detail (tbh, I’m not that interested unless it involved him directly) so it’s not really a case of never mentioning the stag at all.

@Unsmart Good question. After tales of what others had been up to I did say so where are the stories about you, but of course he was all oh no I would never spend hundreds on private lap dances, allow naked women to spit drinks into my mouth etc etc! I do believe him and trust him completely but I guess you never know do you. I'm sure the wives and girlfriends of others there would say the same thing.

Interesting to know that hens can be just as bad. I don't doubt that for a second

Of course He never did anything. Women def aren’t as bad. 🙄

Well you can bet your life that your partner was an enthusiastic participant in what went on. Or else he will have thoroughly enjoyed watching his pals and these naked women " interacting".
I take it that him going to strip clubs and lapdancing clubs isnt a problem for you? I would end my relationship if my partner went to one .
I think you should discuss what you've been told with the women partners and the bride yo be. They have a right to know what disgusting cheating misogynistic men they are in relationships with. You might also find out what they have been told about how your partner behaved.