14 year old never going out with friends at all?

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Is this ok? Ds has ASD and never goes out at all on his own? He asks every day for a lift home from school and now it’s the holidays like with every other holiday he doesn’t seem to want to go anywhere.

He never mentions any friends but says school is fine . He has a phone but is rarely on it. I’m just a bit worried as I thought by now he would be going out and about at weekends or holidays and he just doesn’t want to / isn’t getting asked ? Should I say or do something or just leave it as he seems ok ?

If we go out as a family he always happily comes but I was just worried as at this age he should be spending time with friends ?

I have a 13 year old DS who barely goes out. He is NT and has friends but never seems to want to make plans and is happy just playing on his PS4 and playing online with them. I made him arrange something with them a couple of weeks ago and they had a good time but if I suggest doing something similar again he doesn’t fancy it. I don’t get what his friends are doing either, I’m sure they’re not all meeting up without him.

Maybe I’m just overthinking it I’m not sure ! He seems content enough in his own way perhaps I’m just worrying over nothing

My 14yo ds is the same. He’s NT. Social at school. But come weekends and holidays, won’t see friends. He’s just not bothered. Finds hanging out “boring!”.

Ds says school is fine and he genuinely doesn’t seem unhappy to go each day. Feedback from teachers is that he is silent and not sociable and they worry about his presentation as he seems to be ‘vacant’ and just staring into space a lot of the time (although does his work?) . He seems to be coping though so maybe I just need to not worry? It sounds like it may just be how things are now and not necessarily related to his ASD ? I just needed to reassure myself I think !

I used to worry a lot. Mainly because I thought he’s missing out on normal teenage activities. But the more times have gone on, I’ve realised he really isn’t bothered and realised I’m projecting onto him. Our stipulation to the not going out is that he comes places with us.

My DD14 never goes out, she used to go out all the time but the past year prefers to be at home all the time. She only sees her boyfriend, which isn't great. She doesn't hang out with any friends in school or out.

I just think it depends on the child, my eldest never went out at that age even though had lots of friends but my other Ds who is just 14 spends any minute he can out with mates on his bike. I wouldn’t worry.