Firstly let me just say I don't find this woman as a threat as in he's going to run off with her but they appear to be messaging each other a lot about nothing in particular. For context, he has known her and her husband for many years and my fiance split up from his then partner 3 years ago. I know it's her when she messages as she presses return after every sentence so his phone ping ping pings. Anyway I think it's excessive and I told him so but it carries on.. it might be 7 am or 12 midnight or any time in between and it's like he feels like he has to respond as soon as she starts messaging and it's multiple messages backwards and forwards. When I raised it the other day he said he'd not heard from her for a bit as she'd been away. But then went on to say she?'d messaged to apologise for "being quiet" (ie away) but in the next breath he said she'd sent him some photos of her holiday. It's driving me mad and to the point I really dont like her. The first thing she said when I met her was what has he (my hubby to be) told you about me? There is going to be a time when he's going to suggest that we go and stay with them.or they come to us but how do I say no without sounding petty? Or am i being petty? Like I say, I don't for one minute think he sees her that way but not sure about her. I'd be interested to know anyone else's thoughts on this.