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Activist synagogue worker

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Primrose86 · 31/07/2025 18:22

Mum of a 3 week old newborn - not sure what to do.

My DH suffered from childhood epilepsy and he confided in our rabbi that he suspects he suffers from petit mal absences - aka mini seizures when he is stressed. This is something nhs has ignored so dh is pursuing it privately using his work health insurance

I became pregnant after years of infertility and we now have a baby boy. Dh has 4 months paternity leave and is helping me with the baby. We have very little sleep but I am breastfeeding and baby is gaining weight. My husband does the diaper changes and I trust him 100% with our baby.

Rabbi decided to meet up with us and brought the synagogue social worker and she has decided to write to my GP practice and to say she may be worried about my husband's ability to care for our son due to his occasional absences (which are not even formally diagnosed, just something my husband thinks he has though he wants answers). When she met up with us she asked a lot of questions which I stupidly responded to as I didn't realize she was going to write an email to my GP saying we need additional support being a couple with such problems! I have no health issues, how the fuck does she think single mums cope.

They also know that we don't have family support and mentioned this (though isn't this quite common for many young couples). also its not completely true, my parents are quite wealthy and I have a bank account where they will top up money if I absolutely need it (but I don't share this easily). There is little practical support but I have joined nct and I recovered really well after my c section, was walking around shopping centre with baby 1 week after c section.

We own our London flat and we have arranged childcare for when I go back to work.

I talked to the GP practice and they said that as she isn't from the council or a medical professional and this email was sent without our consent, they can disregard it.

Please advise on what else to do other than obviously never engage with this woman again.

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Mulledjuice · 31/07/2025 18:26

You dont need to do anything

SkipperTheEyeChild · 31/07/2025 18:29

How can you possibly trust him 100% with the baby? He has absences, he could easily drop the baby etc.

Simonjt · 31/07/2025 18:31

SkipperTheEyeChild · 31/07/2025 18:29

How can you possibly trust him 100% with the baby? He has absences, he could easily drop the baby etc.

Thousands of people with epilepsy are parents, its a complete non-issue.

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Primrose86 · 31/07/2025 18:32

SkipperTheEyeChild · 31/07/2025 18:29

How can you possibly trust him 100% with the baby? He has absences, he could easily drop the baby etc.

Its suspected and it is usually when he is very dehydrated and stressed. How do people with epilepsy have kids which his uncle has. His uncle has full blown epilepsy and has 2 kids. My dh doesn't have epilepsy and he is trying to rule ou epilepsy.

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 31/07/2025 18:35

Looking on the bright side, her email might provide a kick up the backside for the GP to actually pay attention when a patient has said that he believes he is having absence seizures and actually do something about it.

I am assuming that he is being sensible and not driving at all whilst this is being investigated?

Primrose86 · 31/07/2025 18:38

NeverDropYourMooncup · 31/07/2025 18:35

Looking on the bright side, her email might provide a kick up the backside for the GP to actually pay attention when a patient has said that he believes he is having absence seizures and actually do something about it.

I am assuming that he is being sensible and not driving at all whilst this is being investigated?

We don't have a car..

She emailed my GP which isn't even my DH's GP. I am concerned this is going to attract attention of social services when firstly there isn't an issue.

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