Daughter's friend coming on holiday. Costs?

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Hi, new thing for us this year so just wondering how people tend to manage this. We are going on a 2 week holiday next month and DD (16) best friend is flying out for the 2nd week. We have invited her and she's our guest so I've said we will cover her meals, activities etc. Parent of friend has said she will give us some money. It feels odd to accept the money when we've invited this girl, but then when I've thought about it, we're feeding (essentially) another adult for 7 days, plus some of the activities the girls have in mind aren't cheap. So should I accept some of the money? (Although I don't actually know what the other parents will offer). What is the 'done thing' in these circumstances? We're staying in a self catering apartment and will eat some meals in but we enjoy eating out a fair bit (probably lunch or dinner our most days). It's pretty reasonable cost wise, cheaper than UK. Interested how other families have managed this. TIA.

My ex is taking DC1, his girlfriend and DC2 on holiday with her friend. Her friends parents have paid for flights, ex will pay for accommodation, transfers and food. Parents not paying towards this. Seems fair since he’s got less childcare and they have a cheap holiday for their DC. Girlfriend going free as her family are paying for DC1 to go away with them too.

If they offer you can accept or decline depending on your own circumstances and the amount offered. I’d probably accept a token amount for days out.

I think it’s polite of them to offer you some money but I wouldn’t accept any. You could suggest they give the daughter some more spending money. When we’ve taken our kids friends away we’ve paid for everything.

I'm taking DS friend who is 19 away on holiday with us for 10 days in August. We are paying as we invited him. DS often gets invited out for meals with his friends family and we often invite his friend out for meals with us. Whoever invites pays. I'm sure it will just even out over time. I know his friend will bring money to spend and will want to take his family back little gifts. We will be paying for all meals out on holiday and all activities.

I think that it's correct and polite for her parents to offer you money. The "done thing" for us would be to decline and suggest they send her with spending money, and in the same sentence mention the type of activities the girls are planning on doing and how much spending money you're giving your DD.

So in essence you cover flights, accommodation, food and the girls are paying for their activities

It’s polite to offer and decline but suggest spending money may be useful as we will be visiting x or y

i would just expect her to bring her own spending money for extras, but other than that, if i bring one of my kids friends away, I treat them as one of my own and pay for them as if they are.

I went on holiday with a friend’s family at 15. They insisted that nothing needed to he paid.
My mom provided me with plenty of spending money so I could offer to buy treats when out of the all inclusive resort.

Thank you everyone

We have similar. The holiday cost about £800. Friends mum was going to give us the full £800. I suggested £500 as we would have needed a room for dd anyway. Also it was £50 for chwcked baggage and I know they couldn't share 20kg.

It is self catering but if she is with us for meals we will obviously pay. They are 18 next month so would like some meals out with just them.

I did feel bad as it was technically us doing the inviting. But the £500 has helped.

Ask the parent to give it to the girl as fun money - so she can buy ice cream when out with you daughter or to pay entrance into a place when you’re not there?

We take the DC's friends with us regularly but we own the apartment so we just ask the parents to pay for flights, which I book and then am reimbursed. If we have extra travel costs to the airport or to the apartment (such as a Taxi or bigger car) I ask for a proportion of that as well.
We generally cover most other things but if they are out and about they use their own money and parents usually send money for a meal out for us all or similar.