But I really don't know what to do for the best.
A male friend has been confiding in me for a few years that he's not happy in his marriage. He liked and respected his wife, which was always clear in the way he spoke of her, but was frustrated by the way she never wanted to go anywhere or do anyhting as they got older. I didn't really have a response and TBH tried to change the subject as much as possible. It wasn't something he did often btw, just once in a while.
Then, after too many drinks, he blurted out that he's in love with me. I told him to stop being ridiculous and walked off. It's never been mentioned since. I've seen him fairly regularly since but never alone.
I've just heard his wife has died. He's been a friend for a lot of years, the normal thing I'd do is to go round, give him a hug, make a cup of tea and see what practical help he needs. This is exactly what I did when another friend's DH died recently.
But, what to do in this situation?
I'm married and don't feel the same way, even if I wasn't, which is irrelevant when his wife has just died anyway.