Is this odd behaviour

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We've got tickets for a concert in 6 weeks' time. The plan was to go with 3 other people. It's a fair trek and we'd discussed sharing transport, but hadn't made any final plans. Thickets were bought ages ago.

One of the people in the group has posted on FB offering the tickets, as her and DH are unable to go. She hasn't mentioned this to any of the other 3 of us.

I messaged when I saw the post, asking if everything was Ok. She said something has cone up that may mean they're unable to go, they won't know until nearer the time, but didn't want the tickets to go to waste. She's offered them for free, so it's not a financial decision.

It's it me or would you mention it to the friends you planned to go with and/or wait until you knew about the thing?

Fwiw, if the thing happens it's a very legitimate reason not to go.

Depends how well you know her.
Maybe she's got cold feet and is embarrassed.

Hmm. I'd sat this is one of my best friends, but there has been "something" going on with hr for a while. The same group was out at the weekend, a much more adhoc thing only planned a few days before. No one in the group really knew if she was going until she arrived (late) and she only stayed 40 mins, saying she needed to leave because she was hungry.

Shes got cold feet and not interested in the friendship.

Yes of course. Even if I wasn't particularly close to the other people. Surely the rest of the group would wonder where on earth you were when you didn't turn up for the gig? Weird.

Yes, I would expect the person to ask in the group first - if only becuase someone in the group might have a friend or family member who could take the ticket.

Was she planning to go without her DH? Becuase if her behaviour is generally a bit odd, I would be wondering if there's more going on.

Is she having relationship problems? If her behaviour is out of character that could be a result of trouble at home

I’d imagine it was something she wasn’t able or willing to talk about, or that whatever event might mean they can’t go is private or distressing..

I wouldn't worry about why she no longer wants the tickets, but I think it's odd she didn't offer them to the rest of the group first. You might have other friends that could join the group.

I know what the thing is that might mean they can't come. It hasn't been confirmed yet though, so they might be giving away tickets for something they could go to afterall.

I think it is a little odd to be offering this far in advance when they don't know yet, especially if they aren't bothered about being paid for them.

If she is giving them away I would have thought she would have offered then to you guys so you could invite someone else to go before offering them generally.

Try to arrange something 1 to 1 and see if she confides in you, because something's clearly up.

I do think it's odd. I would offer them first to the people of the group I was going to go with, in case they want to bring someone else they do know.
And why would she be embarrassed for having "cold feet"? I'm assuming you are all adults?

But she doesn't have cold feet. Something may be going to happen which will prevent her and her DH attending the event. Depending on the nature of the thing which may or may not happen, it may be that she's not comfortable talking about it with the group.

OP has said that it's already known, what the potential hindrance is, though.

I would tell the people I had planned to go with to see if they had other friends who would like the tickets, especially if I was giving them away

No, she says she knows what it is. She says the woman in question is one of her best friends. It may not be something the friend wants to talk to with people she's less close to.