MIL made me the scapegoat

[Artmumcreative]

My DH and BIL have an appalling relationship with their mother, including not having spoken for about a year. BIL apparently got back in contact with her. DH hasn't found out much from BIL but has said that I am the scapegoat (presumably the 'reason' she hasn't bothered to visit my DD- HER DGC- for over a year). MIL had blocked me on all messaging apps so I gave up trying to message her. Turns out she'd unblocked me but hadn't said, so I don't know when that happened.
I don't think I've done anything though, other than being genuinely busy bringing up our DD. I also don't want to get involved as she's not my mother and she doesn't have a healthy relationship with my DH. I don't imagine they'd be able to not argue in front of DD.

She's apparently told BIL she's 'had a cancer scare', and BIL has told DH that if MIL has excluded DH from her will (one of the things she's used to control her children over the years), BIL isn't prepared to split any of it with DH.

Should I do/say anything (to MIL), or continue to stay out of it (whilst being scapegoated)?

For goodness sakes no OP, of course you shouldn’t say anything and baffling you’d even think to

Just crack on with no contact

Stay out of it - let your DH make his own decisions.

I wouldn't go anywhere near any of that nonsense. She sounds utterly toxic. It would be well worth keeping your dc out of harm's way too.

Cancer scare my ass

Stay well clear. And a weird thing for BIL to say about not splitting the money either. He sounds just as bad!!

EDIT: Meant to post on OP’s most recent thread. (Had linked this one)

Try being a bit more friendly to her.
You say i dont want to bother cos she's not my mum.
She's done something right by raising your husband. You obviously liked him.

Pfffff she abused my husband until he was old enough to get away.

I was friendly with her until she tried to insist on feeding my baby and then criticised me for breastfeeding in my own home

That’s an unhinged comment to make.

Op, don’t bother. It’s ll a bid for attention and to get your Dh to feel sorry for her and get back in contact. Blaming you instead of taking accountability for her own actions is typical narc behaviour.

It sounds like there are good reasons as to why you don’t bother with her, keep it that way

Most of us have cancer scares as sadly almost 50% of us will get a cancer diagnosis. She should count her self lucky and take the opportunity to examine her life why she’s being such a twat ( if it were a real scare)
keep her blocked - it’s a ploy