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What's stiffer than a duvet or give me some other ideas, desperate to sleep

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Needsleepsoln · 29/07/2025 09:46

I'm sleeping in the sofa for reasons I won't go into. It's the only option available right now but it's become very uncomfortable.

The sofa is decent but slopes down one end.
I've been fine sleeping up the opposite end but hurt my side (old surgery scar flare up) so now I need to sleep with my head on the sloping end.

I've tried sleeping up the other end facing inwards but I'm on the edge and its not ideal but the best option so far.

No money to replace the sofa.

I'm in my 50s and don't want to sleep on the floor on an air mattress. No room for another bed.

I was thinking of something to pad up the sloping end, I've tried a duvet but it's too soft,na foam topper will also be too soft, and I need it kinda wedge shaped.

Any suggestions? Towels? Something stiffer than a duvet but still comfortable to sleep on?

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BadActingParsley · 29/07/2025 09:48

Can you buy a mattress topper? Maybe a double one and fold it over. I slept on a sofa and the floor while looking after an elderly relative - i alternated and did use a blow up mattress too - to try and give my body different aches on different nights. It wasn't ideal. Some physio helped too....

Seeline · 29/07/2025 09:49

Foam wedge pillows on Amazon - loads of different ones

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RainSoakedNights · 29/07/2025 09:50

you can get foam wedge pillows on amazon

Lacitlyana · 29/07/2025 09:50

Can you lift the cushions and put a thin piece of chipboard or similar under them? You can buy "sofa saver boards" online as well?

Dheops · 29/07/2025 09:56

Roll up some blankets into a wedge shape or maybe just a small cylinder, and put them under the sofa cushions to flatten them.

I'm sorry this sounds like a really difficult situation.

This is very old school but if the sofa is sagging because the base has broken down, we have been known to fill up the whole space under the cushions with old newspapers and cardboard boxes to make a really firm, flat surface. I suspect that is a fire risk though and poor for ventilation but when we were out of options it tided us over.

3luckystars · 29/07/2025 09:58

Would one of those hammock style sleeping beds work? They use them for fishing and are very nice and can be folded up and put away during the the day like a deck chair. They are far nicer than an air bed.

Failing that, could you get some foam from a chair upholstery shop and get a wedge for sofa with it.

Or put an Amazon camping mattress across the entire sofa.

Or one of those narrow Japanese roll out mattresses on top it might even it out?

InfoSecInTheCity · 29/07/2025 10:00

You could just chop up some cardboard, duct tape it together into a solid wedge and put it under the sofa cushion. It won’t last forever but should do the job for a few weeks.

Paaseitjes · 29/07/2025 10:02

You can get full height airbeds with built in pumps that are as comfortable as real beds. Intex durabeams are good. They're about £50 and a million times better than a sofa, I promise

Needsleepsoln · 29/07/2025 10:12

Thank you so much! I never knew those wedge pillows existed, I'll have a look.

The sofa can't be diy "fixed", it's a eazy boy and sags because of use.
It's a tricky family situation so can't do anything too invasive.

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NewsdeskJC · 29/07/2025 10:13

Can you explain why is slopes? Are the cushions worn? Is the issue with the sofa base/springs? Is the floor not level?

Needsleepsoln · 29/07/2025 10:15

Paaseitjes · 29/07/2025 10:02

You can get full height airbeds with built in pumps that are as comfortable as real beds. Intex durabeams are good. They're about £50 and a million times better than a sofa, I promise

This might be life changing, I did look up air mattresses but wasn't sure how good the full height air beds would be for ongoing use.
I don't suppose you know if they can be deflated and reinflated daily?

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3luckystars · 29/07/2025 10:16

Yes air mattresses can be inflated and deflated daily but they are probably not for long term use.

How long do you think this will go on for?

NewsdeskJC · 29/07/2025 10:17

I have slept on an inflatable bed like that mentioned above. Very comfy and I have a really dodgy back!
Yes to deflating daily.
Or you could get replacement foam cushions made for the sofa ( appreciate though that might be seen as interferring)

ahagwearsapointybonnet · 29/07/2025 10:19

I was going to suggest the Aerobed full-height airbeds, though they're not that cheap, but a lot less than a new sofa - they're pretty comfy (especially if you adjust the amount of air to suit you), and can be taken down during the day.

Needsleepsoln · 29/07/2025 10:20

NewsdeskJC · 29/07/2025 10:13

Can you explain why is slopes? Are the cushions worn? Is the issue with the sofa base/springs? Is the floor not level?

I think the springs must have gone. It's a lazy boy with two sides, one side is perfectly fine but the other side has been worn in I suppose.
It's not my sofa so I can't do much about it and I might be here for a few months at least.

Basically my adult dd has severe ppd, her DH works long shifts at all hours so I'm staying here to help with her and she baby. We live too far away to not stay over.

Not trying to be mysterious, just didn't want to clutter up my op work detail that wasn't relevant!

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Paaseitjes · 29/07/2025 10:20

Needsleepsoln · 29/07/2025 10:15

This might be life changing, I did look up air mattresses but wasn't sure how good the full height air beds would be for ongoing use.
I don't suppose you know if they can be deflated and reinflated daily?

I don't know how long they'd last doing that. They've got electric pumps so it's pretty easy to do. Ours is about 5 years old and gets used 2-3 times per year for a week and is still going strong. It needs a bit of extra air after 3 nights and is honestly as comfortable as our bed. It was the best solution space and cost wise when we looking for a bed for a small spare room.

Needsleepsoln · 29/07/2025 10:22

3luckystars · 29/07/2025 10:16

Yes air mattresses can be inflated and deflated daily but they are probably not for long term use.

How long do you think this will go on for?

Possibly 2-3 months with a break in between, although could be less.

I'm measuring up right now to see if I could move the mattress to the hall or laundry.

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Paaseitjes · 29/07/2025 10:23

Sympathy! My mum slept on a stretcher camping bed for weeks when my sister had serious depression. It's tough but hopefully really appreciated long term. I hope you all pull through. I think the air bed will last at least 2 months going up and down, and then hopefully you'll all be doing better. Dh sleeps on ours when he's got a big meeting so the baby doesn't wake him

3luckystars · 29/07/2025 10:24

Could she go to stay with you for a week or two? just for a break. I hope you are ok x

Needsleepsoln · 29/07/2025 10:28

Thank you @Paaseitjes it's so hard seeing her like this. I wouldn't mind if I could sleep on my other side, the sofa would be ok so the mattress might not have to last as long.

@3luckystars yes possibly in a month or so, she is near her own GP here and obviously her DH. He is lovely but can't take any more time off work.

I always see "it takes a village" and I didn't have that myself so I feel lucky to be able to help them.

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beetr00 · 29/07/2025 10:54

@Needsleepsoln this could be an option

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