Would like some advise of my partners children

[Sophiethomas679]

Hi Everyone,

I would love some advise on something. Please be nice as I am just looking for some guidance on the following matter.

Basically, me and my partner met this women who was selling her dog and we fell in love with the pup and brought her. My partner remained in contact with this lady as she was also very attached to the puppy and she wanted to see the puppy on a regular basis.

Over a 4 week period, we both get to know her and she has a lengthy criminal record and her 4 children were taken into care. She started adding my partners children on snapchat and buying them expensive items like football boots and designer tracksuits. I told my partner that I was concerned about this and he said it was because she wasn't able to treat her own kids.

So, I spoke with the children subtly and they mentioned that she said she buys them these gifts because "they deserve it".

Can someone advise me on what they think about this and what I should do. Is there anyway that I can obtain a criminal record to show whether she is allowed around children?

Absolutely not. I completely agree with you, it's overstepping the mark, buying expensive gifts for your children and adding them to Snapchat. Snapchat has features where your messages can disappear once read, and notifies the sender if you take a screenshot, it's one of the social media apps I don't like.
Also, I might add, I personally don't add my friends kids to FB/IG etc but that's just me.

I think you have every right to put in boundaries here with this woman. You don't know the reason why her kids were taken into care, although it's likely it's due to prison sentencing.
You can look into Sarah's Law (in UK) where individuals can find out if someone in their kids life could be a risk. I don't know how much detail you can get from it but it'll tell you if she is a risk to your children.

Also you can search online databases and newspapers with her name to find out about courts and arrests if they were made public, to give you an indication on what kind of things she did.
Of course, people can change, but for the safety of your children and because she's buying them gifts I would really consider looking into it.
It could be innocent of course, but only knowing you and your kids for 4 weeks doesn't sit well with me or you