As men age.....

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Do men just sleep/nap more as they get older? My dh came home from work yesterday at 3.30(does shift work, he was up at 4.45 and in work for 6). We ate dinner at 4. By 4.30 he was asleep in the armchair, I woke him at 5.30 just before I left to bring DS to clubs. I came home at 6.30 and he was asleep. Slept on and off for an hour. Went to bed at 9.30.
Today he got up at 10.30. Went out with ds home around 4. Dinner and asleep on sofa again by 5.30. Tried watching a movie and he kept dosing off. To make matters worse his snoring is getting louder. He is in bed now conked out. He could have an average of 3 naps a day at the weekend, I try not to let him nap so much during the week so he will sleep at night

It’s probably the shifts. Or the snoring is maybe sleep apnea.

How old is he, seeing as you ask about ageing.

Shifts are awful; you never really catch up properly on your sleep.

I remember with my FIL, who worked 12 hour shifts into his sixties, we were worried he had a dreadful illness as he was permanently exhausted however six months after he retired he was like a new man and lived for another 20 years. It's tough.

Shift work definitely fucks you up.

My DH used to do a week of early shift, a week of night shift and then a week of late shift, then rinse and repeat.

It didn't just fuck his sleep up but also his eating and toileting too.

I try not to let him nap so much during the week so he will sleep at night

Are we talking about an adult or a toddler here?

He shouldn’t be disturbing your sleep, and he should be awake for everything he needs to do for work and as a parent and husband. Beyond that, “let” him nap as much as he wants - he’s presumably a grown adult and can deal with the consequences of disrupted sleep by himself.

He is 49.
The reason I wake him when he falls asleep in the chair is because he doesn't sleep properly then at night. All the tossing and turning, fighting with the pillow, get up and then getting back into bed wakes me up.
His shift is 3 week rota, early morning 6-2, afternoon 2-10 and nights 10-6.
I use to do 12 hr shifts 7-7 days and nights. I didn't sleep that much.

It certainly seems to be true of my husband (61).
He could sleep for Wales.
WFH at computer all day (but it’s very stressful!) then huge doze on the sofa. Nods off during the day and pretty much every time we’re in the car and I’m driving. As soon as his head hits a pillow he’s comatose. He’s fit, well and active though.

there is nothing wrong with napping. It’s supposed to be good for you. Shift work doesn’t help. I used to nap all the time when doing it and I’d be very annoyed if DH was trying to prevent it

Well there is something wrong with it if it's affecting other people in the house. He is asleep in the chair in the living room so if your in there trying to watch tv his snoring is drowning out the tv. We can't do anything together in the evening time as when he sits down he drifts off. The kids won't bring their friends in as they are embarrassed that he is asleep and his snoring is loud. We live in a bungalow and the noise travels through the house.
Go to the cinema and he doesn't remember the movie as he has fallen asleep.
We went in holiday and he was asleep before the plane even took off.

I'd love to have a nap during the day/evening time but we have kids and someone needs to be awake for them 😁😁😁😁😁

This is happening I'd say the last 9 yrs since he turned 40. I remember my dad going for a nap Saturday/Sunday afternoon but I don't remember him dosing off so much after work.

Sounds like he needs to be checked for sleep apnea. Is he overweight?

My DH (mid 60s) will nod off at odd moments on the sofa. I don't think he has sleep apnoea - he's very skinny and seems to snore consistently rather than stopping breathing. It is something he's done more as he aged.

Mine often dozes off in the chair while reading. This has definitely become more frequent with age (he is nearly 76).

He got checked for sleep apnea about 5 yrs ago. He's not overweight but not skinny.
He doesn't drink during the week. At the weekend maybe once a month we got for a drink on Sunday evening. We might get beers in every other weekend not he's not a heavy drinker.

I really do think it's an age thing. I'm sleeping less(Peri menopause so this could be a reason it's now starting to annoy me)and he's sleeping more 😂😂😂

Thyroid?

Age I think is a factor but it's the shift work. My dh doesn't do nights but does 6-2 or 2 -10. It's takes its toll more so the older he gets. My fil did 12 hour days and night for years until he was medically retired in his late 50s. His body clock was a mess. He was all over the place and never was right even after a few years of not working. Sleeping and eating all over the place!

Shifts do mess with sleep patterns but I was thinking about B12 defecity, have a Google and see what you think.

Man in his mid 40s here, not happening to me so far. If anything, I'm finding myself needing less sleep, so it's probably not an age thing specifically.

It's probably the snoring leading to him getting and unsettled nights sleep.