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How to get past pre surgery nerves?

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RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 18:43

I’m having an operation on Thursday. It’s my first ever experience with GA, surgery, healing, and anything like that. My consultation in January was my first ever hospital appointment! Please give me some tips to get through the nerves because I can’t spend the next four days like this

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TamzinGrey · 26/07/2025 18:54

I was terrified before my first GA but I've had several since and it doesn't bother me any more.
You'll drop off before you know it, and have the best sleep ever. Then you'll wake up to find that it's all over and you'll be so relieved that you'll feel ecstatic.

Iloveeverycat · 26/07/2025 19:01

My first GA was at 45 it was for a mastectomy for cancer. I was more worried about the GA than the cancer and op. Everyone was lovely I told them I was nervous. Afterwards I wondered why I was so worried.

RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 19:07

Thanks both! I’m just so worried about it 😅

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ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 26/07/2025 19:33

@Iloveeverycatme to, but I was 43!

whatwasthatnoise · 26/07/2025 20:19

Have you heard of box breathing? It's a great way to calm that rising panic in your chest. Do it as much as you need to. I read the people do 7-8 seconds in/pause/out/pause but I feel like I'm suffocating so I do 4 seconds.
https://www.calm.com/blog/box-breathing

You should see re anaesthetic before your operation, and/or be checked in by a doctor so you'll have lots of opportunities to ask questions and tell them you're nervous. I watch a lot of those real life medical/surgical programmes. Often the patients are told to think of something lovely as they drift off and the anaesthetist tells them they will be well looked after, which I think is reassuring.

I've had a few anaesthetics and I've been terrified each time but the staff are always lovely and explain what they're doing /what's going on as they do their job.

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RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 20:21

whatwasthatnoise · 26/07/2025 20:19

Have you heard of box breathing? It's a great way to calm that rising panic in your chest. Do it as much as you need to. I read the people do 7-8 seconds in/pause/out/pause but I feel like I'm suffocating so I do 4 seconds.
https://www.calm.com/blog/box-breathing

You should see re anaesthetic before your operation, and/or be checked in by a doctor so you'll have lots of opportunities to ask questions and tell them you're nervous. I watch a lot of those real life medical/surgical programmes. Often the patients are told to think of something lovely as they drift off and the anaesthetist tells them they will be well looked after, which I think is reassuring.

I've had a few anaesthetics and I've been terrified each time but the staff are always lovely and explain what they're doing /what's going on as they do their job.

I think once I’ve done it I’m going to feel so silly. I just hate the whole idea

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whatwasthatnoise · 26/07/2025 20:27

Don't feel silly. It's a big thing, having surgery and anaesthetic and the unknown of what your recovery will be like. Take all the pain killers. Line up plenty of Netflix to watch as you recover on the sofa/from bed. Have lots of snacks handy and one of those good thermal mugs to keep your coffee hot. And keep up the box breathing, if it helps.

Beachbodyready · 26/07/2025 20:30

I was really worried and the anaesthetist said “do you know how much paperwork I’d have to do if anything happened to you, I hate paperwork so you’ll be fine”. It really helped me - I hope it helps you

Rainydayinlondon · 26/07/2025 20:34

Beachbodyready · 26/07/2025 20:30

I was really worried and the anaesthetist said “do you know how much paperwork I’d have to do if anything happened to you, I hate paperwork so you’ll be fine”. It really helped me - I hope it helps you

Haha...I think we had the same anesthetist.

OP think how fantastic you'll feel afterwards when the operation has resolved whatever it is that is wrong. And enjoy being pampered for a few days afterwards when you are convalescing. Get a list of films you want to watch and order some books.

SqueamishHamish · 26/07/2025 20:35

Totally understand because I am in the same boat with day surgery with GA scheduled in two weeks. It's all I can think off. I am not worried about the GA but I am worried about the wait and the pain and recovery after. However, I have to get this done. It's going to be really positive for me and I am already making plans for the new me after it is done.

RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 20:36

SqueamishHamish · 26/07/2025 20:35

Totally understand because I am in the same boat with day surgery with GA scheduled in two weeks. It's all I can think off. I am not worried about the GA but I am worried about the wait and the pain and recovery after. However, I have to get this done. It's going to be really positive for me and I am already making plans for the new me after it is done.

The wait has been awful - even though it’s been just over two weeks for me between call and surgery!! I’m terrified of the recovery after as well, I don’t know why

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RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 20:37

Rainydayinlondon · 26/07/2025 20:34

Haha...I think we had the same anesthetist.

OP think how fantastic you'll feel afterwards when the operation has resolved whatever it is that is wrong. And enjoy being pampered for a few days afterwards when you are convalescing. Get a list of films you want to watch and order some books.

Yes, I am going to stock up my kindle!

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Summerholidayze · 26/07/2025 20:52

To reassure you operations are being performed 24/7/365 by highly experienced surgeons and theatre staff. Every detail of your medical health will have been assessed and taken into consideration. You’ll be in good hands and will be fine.
Post operatively, make sure you move asap - get out of bed and walk round. Whenever painkillers are offered, even if you don’t need them at the time, take them. Eat well and get plenty of rest and sleep. This time next week you’ll be in a different place. x

RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 20:53

Summerholidayze · 26/07/2025 20:52

To reassure you operations are being performed 24/7/365 by highly experienced surgeons and theatre staff. Every detail of your medical health will have been assessed and taken into consideration. You’ll be in good hands and will be fine.
Post operatively, make sure you move asap - get out of bed and walk round. Whenever painkillers are offered, even if you don’t need them at the time, take them. Eat well and get plenty of rest and sleep. This time next week you’ll be in a different place. x

Oh no, I totally get that - there’s a girl who keeps coming up on my TikTok who’s having a boob job the day before my op. I’m thinking if she’ll go under totally voluntarily, I’ll be fine! It’s such a minor procedure too, but I’m just terrified.

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Cynic17 · 26/07/2025 20:57

What are you actually worried about, OP? It will all be very straightforward, the team will know exactly what they're doing, a GA is fabulous (best sleep.of your life), and you'll be on the road to recovery from your original condition.
What's not to like?

RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 21:02

Cynic17 · 26/07/2025 20:57

What are you actually worried about, OP? It will all be very straightforward, the team will know exactly what they're doing, a GA is fabulous (best sleep.of your life), and you'll be on the road to recovery from your original condition.
What's not to like?

I think just all of it. I can’t conceptualise it being a good sleep, because I’m an awful sleeper. So I have nothing to compare it to, if that makes sense? I’m also obese and on mounjaro, and despite being reassured that it’s fine, it’s scared me quite a bit. And then just the general recovery. I don’t know how Painful it’ll be

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Summerholidayze · 26/07/2025 21:02

Is it the GA that’s bothering you?

youalright · 26/07/2025 21:04

Beachbodyready · 26/07/2025 20:30

I was really worried and the anaesthetist said “do you know how much paperwork I’d have to do if anything happened to you, I hate paperwork so you’ll be fine”. It really helped me - I hope it helps you

When you get their tell the staff you are nervous they will help you. Iv never met a bad anesthetist and iv had 100s of ops their amazing drs and really good at making people feel safe and relaxed. Just enjoy the rest and the drugs and before you know it, it will be over. Then when your home get a little bell and enjoy watching your family run around after you for a change 🤣
Edit. Sorry didn't mean to quote you in that but he was right far to much paper work for that

NotsosunnyShropshire · 26/07/2025 21:04

RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 19:07

Thanks both! I’m just so worried about it 😅

Is there something in particular that is worrying you?

RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 21:05

NotsosunnyShropshire · 26/07/2025 21:04

Is there something in particular that is worrying you?

I’m scared of not waking up

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Peekingovertheparapet · 26/07/2025 21:08

I actually love having a GA - like the deepest sleep ever but also over in a flash. When I woke I only knew it had been done because I had a sore throat and felt like I’d been kicked in the abdomen. I felt wonderfully groggy and floaty at bedtime and slept well that night too.

anyzee · 26/07/2025 21:08

I coped by blanking it out of my mind pretty much. I was shitting myself (sorry) as that was my first time under GA at the age of 65!! The surgeon kept asking me, "and you have NEVER had a GA up to now, none, never broken a bone, had gallstones out etc. etc." It was no, no no and he laughed out loud, and put me at ease.

I took it one day at a time. I was nervous, but somehow or other when the time comes to go to theatre a calm comes over you (well it did to me), there's no going back now, lol and I knew I was in good hands. I just lay there, the anaesthetist was behind my head and was very reassuring. There is a lot of activity in the room as there are nurses, docs, anaesthetists and god knows who all working together to make sure it all goes smoothly. And it did. I just remember the anaesthetist saying some soothing words and next thing I was back in the ward feeling floaty and a bit stoned, but fine.

I had cardiac surgery, a pretty big thing for me, but routine for them! That's what I remember if I ever have to have a GA again! They will give you plenty of advice and information about what to do (and not to do) during the recovery period.

It's normal to be nervous, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, but you will be in the hands of people who have trained for many years to do this. Good luck and hope you have a speedy recovery.

youalright · 26/07/2025 21:08

To be honest op having surgery is probably one of the safest moments of your life when else do you have a team of drs and nurses with all their attention on your safety. Where your oxygen, heart rate and blood pressure is constantly monitored. And any slight change can be fixed instantly

RainSoakedNights · 26/07/2025 21:09

Peekingovertheparapet · 26/07/2025 21:08

I actually love having a GA - like the deepest sleep ever but also over in a flash. When I woke I only knew it had been done because I had a sore throat and felt like I’d been kicked in the abdomen. I felt wonderfully groggy and floaty at bedtime and slept well that night too.

Something else that concerns me is being totally out of it for the rest of the day - it sounds like nightmare fuel to me

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dogcatkitten · 26/07/2025 21:10

Just remember countless people go through a GA and wake up, and think how great it will be when whatever the problem was is fixed. Keep the goal of being fit in mind, this is just the way to get there.

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