When I met my husband, drinking and pubs was a big part of our life for years. 16 years later, we’ve got a child and I barely drink anymore (the odd glass when we go out for dinner etc). He’s always been more sociable / had more friends than me so is out more than I am anyway. My husband will find a reason to have a drink for any occasion (celebration, fed up, cooking, at the end of a walk, the weekend etc) which can vary from 2 drinks to 8 large ones. He’ll definitely drink every Friday and Saturday, other days too if he’s found a reason. I find him irritating if he’s had even one drink, and depending on his mood he can sometimes turn quite arrogant / rude / handsy / lots of comments about how there’s lots of love for our son and not for him. Is it that I shouldn’t have changed and that I should be still be the old version of me and enjoy a glass of wine / pubs (and shower him with love), or is it that he needs to do something about it? I’ve told him to cut back but he tells me he’s having less (he is) but that he enjoys it so can’t / doesn’t want to cut back. I find myself trying to avoid situations where it will end up in the pub (ie going for a walk) because I much prefer the version of him with a cup of tea!