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What things irrationally annoy you about your partner/family?

19 replies

Superstorefan123 · 23/07/2025 21:22

Lighthearted thread!

What things do your loved ones do which irrationally irritate you? I’m talking zero actual fault, just irrational annoyance!!

I’ll go first - my husband sleeps with 5 pillows?! No health issues, perfectly fit 30 year old man who insists on sitting basically fully upright all night. Beyond annoys me for no reason!

Any to add?

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Shuddabeenabloke · 23/07/2025 21:39

The way my MIL eats a jacket potato. Clearly this has (or at least should have!) absolutely no impact on me at all and it's not even that what she does is gross or anything like that.

She never, ever eats any of the skin (which any sane person knows is the best bit) so instead of cutting the potato in to pieces, she delicately fluffs up a very small section of potato with her fork (held upside down), eats the fork full of mashed up potato that she has created (leaving a small crater) then repeats the process. If she has a topping/filling she moves it to the side of the plate then takes a small piece of it on the end of the fork after the fluffing up process.

I have no idea why this irritates me so much, and it is clearly none of my business. It doesn't help that this is one of her favourite meals so I have to witness it frequently. Neither does it help that she complains if there is too much topping (I was not previously aware that could be a thing) to allow her to separate it.
I suspect if you asked her the same question she may well mention the gluttonous way that her DIL attacks a jacket potato, eating everything including the skin.

StormsAreDue · 23/07/2025 21:42

My husband grinds his teeth in his sleep. I do wake him as he is actually damaging his teeth but i could quite happily stab him when he wakes me up. I may be a grump cow...

goudacheese · 23/07/2025 22:08

When my elderly mum talks to me from from another room so I can't hear a word she is saying, just a low mumbling and normally when I'm on the loo. My DH does this too, he might be in the bedroom and I'm downstairs in the kitchen and he shouts down about something which I can't hear above the washing machine etc. I have to stop what I'm doing and go to see what they want, so annoying.

OldWomanInACardigan · 23/07/2025 22:09

goudacheese · 23/07/2025 22:08

When my elderly mum talks to me from from another room so I can't hear a word she is saying, just a low mumbling and normally when I'm on the loo. My DH does this too, he might be in the bedroom and I'm downstairs in the kitchen and he shouts down about something which I can't hear above the washing machine etc. I have to stop what I'm doing and go to see what they want, so annoying.

I do that I'm 66. It drives my husband mad.

Rugbyballhead · 23/07/2025 22:10

Loud eating at breakfast time. I love him but I don't like eating breakfast near him.

FurlaMetropolis · 23/07/2025 22:16

DH and MIL not using dining knife, pushing food around the plate with just a fork.

Haveanaiceday · 23/07/2025 22:20

My DH eats things you hold in your hand like sandwiches or cake and so on, very slowly and deliberately then licks his fingers.

NippyNinjaCrab · 23/07/2025 22:24

When DH leaves his false tooth plate out and he is video calling me, his words whistle loudly and I need to turn the volume down! When I am really grumpy I cut him off 😆😆😆 it irritates me so much.

TheTempest · 23/07/2025 22:30

The sound of DH (who I absolutely adore and is a great man) eating crisps, particularly in bed. The interminable rustle followed by the crunch crunch lick, rustle etc honestly makes me stubby! He knows that if we ever divorce that’s going on the divorce as unreasonable behaviour!!

NameChangedOfc · 23/07/2025 22:45

He is generally noisy.

Foodoverload · 23/07/2025 22:47

My dad always video phones me with the tv on. If I ask him to turn it off, he turns down the volume, but you can still see him watching it from the reflection of his glasses.

Dp cannot eat chocolate quietly. Every other meal is normal noise. Chocolate is just chomp, snort lick.

Gabitule · 23/07/2025 22:48

StormsAreDue · 23/07/2025 21:42

My husband grinds his teeth in his sleep. I do wake him as he is actually damaging his teeth but i could quite happily stab him when he wakes me up. I may be a grump cow...

Ouch, he should really wear a mouth guard

recklessgran · 23/07/2025 22:52

When we're out walking DH strides ahead and leaves me behind. Every time. Drives me nuts! He says I'm too slow but what he doesn't seem to realise is that I take one step every time he does it's just that his stride is twice the length of one of mine so I'd have to double my pace to keep up with him. Gives me THE RAGE.

TheEndlessNight · 23/07/2025 23:20

My dh only has black socks and uses them daily. I have cream carpets 😡 I swear he leaves a trail of black ouse all over the house. For Christmas this year he's getting 100 pairs of white socks 🤣

GentleJadeOP · 15/10/2025 18:52

Shuddabeenabloke · 23/07/2025 21:39

The way my MIL eats a jacket potato. Clearly this has (or at least should have!) absolutely no impact on me at all and it's not even that what she does is gross or anything like that.

She never, ever eats any of the skin (which any sane person knows is the best bit) so instead of cutting the potato in to pieces, she delicately fluffs up a very small section of potato with her fork (held upside down), eats the fork full of mashed up potato that she has created (leaving a small crater) then repeats the process. If she has a topping/filling she moves it to the side of the plate then takes a small piece of it on the end of the fork after the fluffing up process.

I have no idea why this irritates me so much, and it is clearly none of my business. It doesn't help that this is one of her favourite meals so I have to witness it frequently. Neither does it help that she complains if there is too much topping (I was not previously aware that could be a thing) to allow her to separate it.
I suspect if you asked her the same question she may well mention the gluttonous way that her DIL attacks a jacket potato, eating everything including the skin.

This is so funny and I get your anger completely!

GentleJadeOP · 15/10/2025 18:53

NippyNinjaCrab · 23/07/2025 22:24

When DH leaves his false tooth plate out and he is video calling me, his words whistle loudly and I need to turn the volume down! When I am really grumpy I cut him off 😆😆😆 it irritates me so much.

I just couldn’t bear it!

GentleJadeOP · 15/10/2025 18:54

Haveanaiceday · 23/07/2025 22:20

My DH eats things you hold in your hand like sandwiches or cake and so on, very slowly and deliberately then licks his fingers.

🤮🤮🤮

Pinkywoo · 15/10/2025 18:59

goudacheese · 23/07/2025 22:08

When my elderly mum talks to me from from another room so I can't hear a word she is saying, just a low mumbling and normally when I'm on the loo. My DH does this too, he might be in the bedroom and I'm downstairs in the kitchen and he shouts down about something which I can't hear above the washing machine etc. I have to stop what I'm doing and go to see what they want, so annoying.

DH does this all the time and then has the cheek to ask if I'm going deaf. If you want to talk to me, at least be in the same bloody room!

ChimpanzeeThatMonkeyNews · 15/10/2025 19:02

Being spoken to/shouted at ‘through the walls’ is something I’m always whinging about.

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