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Tell me about how you met your DH!

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Juytef · 23/07/2025 12:21

How old were you? How did you meet? What was it about him that you liked? How did he propose?

My story is that we were 23&25 when we met at work. We married 3 years later

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TaborlinTheGreat · 23/07/2025 12:33

We met at work too. He was 24, I was 28. I liked that he was very funny and a big character. He also fitted my apparent lifelong preference for men who are of medium height with dark hair and blue eyes Grin. He proposed as we were about go go out to a very fancy restaurant (he thought it would be a bit showy to propose in the restaurant!). We got married in 2003.

thenightsky · 23/07/2025 12:37

Drunken party. He was a friend of host. I let him walk me home. He came in for a one night stand shag. I was 19 he was 23.

We got married 2 years later after a long distance relationship. Been married 45 years this year.

Elderflower14 · 23/07/2025 12:43

My husband was 35 years older than me. We met in the pub. He had been widowed 15 months previously. He was a friend of a friend and knew my Dad. He was in the SAS and trained all the men who went into the embassy for the Iranian siege.
At my wedding my friend made a joke and said everyone had given up on me finding anyone so they gave me to the SAS!!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/07/2025 12:47

I was queuing for the Last Night of the Proms and, after the Thursday night Prom concert, I went to the pub with some other prommers, and met dh there. Specifically, we were standing in the gutter outside the Builders Arms in South Kensington. We had sleeping spaces next to each other outside Doors 9 & 10 of the Albert Hall. We met up each evening to go to that night’s concert (he was working and I was sight seeing in London). On the Saturday morning, he bought me breakfast and let me use the shower at his flat.

There is a well known Chinese restaurant in London called Wong Kei, where you always end up sharing a table with other people (their tables are big), and dh proposed there, in front of a table of strangers, while we were eating crab legs.

Zumbador · 23/07/2025 12:51

We first met in 2005 at work though not working together. Both in relationships. Saw him at times at work social things. Always liked him, he’s very smart and fun and a great conversationalist.

Fast forward ten years, both single. Chemistry was there in spades. Work do at a pub, I was egged on by colleagues to ask him out and that was that. I was 40 he was 50. He proposed a year later when we were on our first holiday. Married a year after that. Totally adore him, and he turned out to be incredibly caring and generous.

ComtesseDeSpair · 23/07/2025 12:55

High as kites, in masks, at a costume house party. We danced and talked. I don’t remember much about what. Didn’t think about him again afterwards. A mutual friend happened to invite us both to a retreat she runs about a year later, and we recognised each other then and got talking a bit more over the course of the weekend.

It was a slow burn, we dated casually as FWB whilst both seeing other people for about four years; we were independent, happily single and liked living by ourselves with full social lives. Then the first lockdown was announced in March 2020 and he suggested I stay at his place “just for a couple of weeks, until it all blows over, there’s no point us both being alone at home.” We realised we get on superbly well, including when trapped in a one-bedroom apartment in Shoreditch with few other distractions. It was a great summer, and I never moved out again: bought a house together March 2021, he proposed in May 2021, we married in September 2023.

Ruggerlass · 23/07/2025 13:27

Both 21 and met in a night club. Asked me to dance and the rest is history as they say. Sounds cliche but he is tall (6’2) dark and handsome, and having a well kept beard was the icing on the cake. Exactly my type.
He proposed 3 months later and we we’re married the following year 2 days after he graduated.

Juytef · 23/07/2025 14:11

Ruggerlass · 23/07/2025 13:27

Both 21 and met in a night club. Asked me to dance and the rest is history as they say. Sounds cliche but he is tall (6’2) dark and handsome, and having a well kept beard was the icing on the cake. Exactly my type.
He proposed 3 months later and we we’re married the following year 2 days after he graduated.

Did you have a good snog as well?

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MissyB1 · 23/07/2025 14:17

Met at work (hospital), he was 37, I was 36, we were both divorced. Flirted for a couple of months, then got together at the Christmas party. Got married 4 years later, been married 17 years now.

AmazingBouncingFerret · 23/07/2025 14:17

We were set up by a mutual friend. He’d been told I was into Harry Potter and because he happened to be working near the studios on the day of our first date he thought he could just waltz into the gift shop and buy me a present. Luckily, one of the security guards had a soft spot for the romance of it all so she escorted him in and allowed him to buy a chocolate frog which he gave to me when we met up that evening for drinks.
He’s never topped that romantic gesture over ten years later but I still love him.

Shitwithsugar · 23/07/2025 14:18

In a nightclub a long way away from both our homes.
40 minutes to get to his house from mine.
2 weeks later we danced together again.
I was 17 (fake id) he was 19.
From then on we met twice a week.
Married after 3 years. We have been married for 46 years.

gigthenfishdelish · 23/07/2025 14:20

28, through a mutual friend. I was attracted to his humour, kindness, and height. Proposed 18 months later. Story is very outing so won't share that!

pearcrumblee · 23/07/2025 14:29

We met at work, I was 30 and he 33. We worked for a large organisation so never had met until after a few years he got transferred to the team I was on. One day I was leaving work and my car would not start, he came over got some leads out to start it. Two hours and everything he did would not work, so he offered to walk me to his place where his car was and he would then drive me home. On the way we stopped at a take out to eat, we had some real belly laughs and we became good friends. We were both interested in more than that but could not muster the courage. Six months later he asked me out on a date which was a lovely dinner at his home.

whohasthetime · 23/07/2025 14:31

Advert in a magazine. Married 30 years. I was 33 and a single parent - he was 29.

namechangeGOT · 23/07/2025 14:34

I was 18, met him in the local pub in 2001. He was 25. Love of my life. Saw him with his lovely stocky legs, shin pads still on with his socks scrunched down ‘Grealish’ style and I thought ‘that’ll do pig’. Got engaged on Christmas Eve 2004, just us in our living room. Married on 23 December 2006 when I was 23. I’m 42 and he’s now 49.

Ruggerlass · 23/07/2025 14:44

Juytef · 23/07/2025 14:11

Did you have a good snog as well?

Absolutely… during the slow dance. He then walked me to the taxi and we had another 😀.

TheAphrodite · 23/07/2025 14:45

I was 23 and he was 30, he was my manager at work and I couldn't stand him! 🤣 thought he was horrid (mainly because he had to keep telling me to actually do my work). moved teams and realised really he wasn't so bad, he'd buy me chocolate bars and pop them on my desk while I was working 😊 went on a singles night out on valentines day with some other colleagues and we had a snog and the rest was history, moved in together a few months later. 5 years later he proposed in the Dominican Republic. Still planning our wedding, we're saving for a deposit for a house and in no rush at the moment. hes happy to just sign a certificate and get it done but I want a bit more of a event 😂

slightlydistrac · 23/07/2025 14:47

Found him in a petrol station! Turned out we had mutual friends and had met briefly before - got chatting and that was it.

SharpOpalNewt · 23/07/2025 15:01

We also met at work in London, 30th November 1998, I was 23. I'd been in London for two months precisely after graduating that summer, and had joined several friends already living there, sharing a flat with a friend of a friend. It was my second temping assignment - this one for a whole six months so some relative stability.

There were four desks together and DH was diametrically opposite me. We were working on different things but it was a sociable and young department, and coming up to Christmas there were quite a few Christmas drinks and shenanigans going on. At this point I was still off and on with an old boyfriend from university and definitely looking for fun and not a long term relationship. I remember at the team Christmas do future DH turned up late with a santa hat on. We had a bit of a kiss at the end of the evening after he walked me to the station, both having drunk rather a lot.

After Christmas he was seconded to another team in another office building down the road. I remember how kindly and well people spoke about him at his "leaving" presentation which created an impression at the time. Actually now we weren't in the same office we communicated a lot more. The email system was internal only and we would spend half our days sending flirty and daft emails to one another and would go out for lunch and a few times in the evening but just "as friends." I knew he fancied me but was taken aback when he declared undying love at the Tube station one evening- February 1999 by now. I remember that he said "I would go to the ends of the earth with you." I'm afraid I just mumbled something about just wanting to be friends and jumped on the train. But I thought about what he said a lot. We didn't see as much of each other after that. He was understandably a bit gutted by my reaction. About that time I did stop seeing the old boyfriend though. And thought some more.

Then I got another job as I wanted to get more legal experience and have a permanent job. I remember he sent me a postcard wishing me luck on my first day- by now this was April 1999. We still kept in touch - by phone (possibly text, I can't remember when this came in). I remember the first May bank holiday weekend came, and I went home to my parents and told my mum all about this boy, and I think over that weekend, away from everything, really helped me ponder about what I wanted as I didn't want to mess him about any more knowing his feelings, and that he wanted something serious. I contacted him and arranged a date - I remember being clear and saying "This is a proper date by the way" - for the evening when I'd be back in London - Monday May 3rd 1999. We went to a pub just off Leicester Square and DOT DOT DOT.

By September we were renting a place together. Two years later we bought a place, got married in 2004, had DD1 and DD2 within a few years and just celebrated our 21st wedding anniversary. I still have the postcard he sent me in April 1999 in a keepsake box.

PsychoSyd · 23/07/2025 15:07

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/07/2025 12:47

I was queuing for the Last Night of the Proms and, after the Thursday night Prom concert, I went to the pub with some other prommers, and met dh there. Specifically, we were standing in the gutter outside the Builders Arms in South Kensington. We had sleeping spaces next to each other outside Doors 9 & 10 of the Albert Hall. We met up each evening to go to that night’s concert (he was working and I was sight seeing in London). On the Saturday morning, he bought me breakfast and let me use the shower at his flat.

There is a well known Chinese restaurant in London called Wong Kei, where you always end up sharing a table with other people (their tables are big), and dh proposed there, in front of a table of strangers, while we were eating crab legs.

That's brilliant! There's quite a lot of Prommers who've met their beloved in the queue.

MaisyMary77 · 23/07/2025 15:21

April 1994. I was kind of down on my luck. I was a 16 year old single mum, living in a mother and baby home. My family had chucked me out when I got pregnant.
My best friend set me up on a blind date with her then boyfriends mate. We hit it off and have been together ever since. 31 years now! He really was my knight in shining armour 😄

PandaG · 23/07/2025 15:31

At school! He moved to the area when we were in y10. Started dating 18 months later, engaged at 18 and 19, married at 21. 32 years of marriage still very happy!

sunshineandshowers21 · 23/07/2025 15:39

we met at a roller disco when we were both 14. i was sat on the wall outside drinking cider and he asked if he could have a swig 😂 he had the most beautiful eyes and gorgeous curly hair and i was immediately smitten. we went on a date to the pictures the next day and we’ve been together ever since. 19 years together, married for 3. we had our first baby when we were both 16 and now have 4 kids. i couldn’t ever imagine being with anyone else.

Crushed23 · 23/07/2025 16:03

ComtesseDeSpair · 23/07/2025 12:55

High as kites, in masks, at a costume house party. We danced and talked. I don’t remember much about what. Didn’t think about him again afterwards. A mutual friend happened to invite us both to a retreat she runs about a year later, and we recognised each other then and got talking a bit more over the course of the weekend.

It was a slow burn, we dated casually as FWB whilst both seeing other people for about four years; we were independent, happily single and liked living by ourselves with full social lives. Then the first lockdown was announced in March 2020 and he suggested I stay at his place “just for a couple of weeks, until it all blows over, there’s no point us both being alone at home.” We realised we get on superbly well, including when trapped in a one-bedroom apartment in Shoreditch with few other distractions. It was a great summer, and I never moved out again: bought a house together March 2021, he proposed in May 2021, we married in September 2023.

Somewhat similar to this, although he’s not my DH and we’re only a few months in. Met at a rave in Brooklyn, off our faces (I have virtually no recollection of the interaction), exchanged instagrams. Started dating a couple of weeks later, as FWBs first, but have since evolved into being exclusive/official.

We were/are early to mid-30s.

Wouldn’t mind him becoming my DH at some point!

Crikeyalmighty · 23/07/2025 16:05

Guardian soulmates - 31 years ago