He keeps making me uncomfortable when collecting DS

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Long story short, divorced a very abusive man, used divorce settlement to buy a house 4 years ago, ex collects child from house and drops there, court ordered and I can’t meet half way due to the need for witnesses if I am around him)

Ex and I do not speak, he blocks me on everything so I can’t have this chat and if I did he would do it more.

Our houses in our road have a thing in the deeds that the front must be open, so no fences/bushes etc, so it’s a small patch of grass and a path to the door. It’s maybe a 4ft width so right by the windows.

Every time ex picks child up he walks over my garden, which allows a view into the window (double windows so can see on either side) then when he returns he inevitably thinks of a game that needs him to run all over my front garden, again able to see in. I have cameras and I can see him divert course to do this.

Yesterday when he came he saw our DS looking out the window to see if it’s his car, so he ran across the garden and peered in the window at which point I saw him.

I am now getting on edge when he turns up, because he won’t respect any boundaries. If I go to his I knock on the door and go and wait, I do not run on his front garden or peer in the windows.

I know it’s control, he begrudged the settlement so feels in a way it’s “his” house, so can behave how he wants.

He also turns up, cranks the radio up, opens the window and literally screams along to music, generally parked across someone’s drive to increase irritation.

Any ideas on how to deal with this? Like I said, no fence/bushes can be put up and he would probably hurdle that to prove a point

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You shouldn't "have to" no, but this is about making your life easier.

If it bothers you that much then you need to remember.

Yes, this is what I was going to say. We lived for a few years in a house on a late 1970s development on the edge of a village. The original developers had put a covenant in place that front gardens could not be fenced off, but that was in 1978. Many houses elsewhere in the development had in the intervening decades put fences or hedges or walls around their front gardens.

Others, including the previous owners of our house, had technically kept to the rules, by putting in large bushes or shrubs around the front boundary which were technically not a hedge, but constituted a de facto barrier nonetheless. We had giant topiary box roundels. The people across the way had large clumps of pampas grass.