Can anyone else relate to being scared to ttc/get pregnant again?

[MyGreyTiger]

Just need to vent. Interested to know if this is a common feeling.

We are starting to decide when to ttc for baby 2 but deep down I’m scared because of a rough start with our first child.

Pregnancy loss, followed by horrible HG sickness when I did get pregnant with my son, awful anxiety and then a short nicu stay.

I keep looking at the calender thinking “but what if I’m sick in hospital due to HG at Christmas, what about if we lose another baby etc etc..,”

I know I just need to go for it and not let these thoughts win. Everyone else I speak to didn’t seem to feel this way

Oh yes. That’s why I have an only child. Never got past it.

Sorry to hear about your experiences.

I had this feeling after DC1 was premature and had a stay in SCBU, and then I was diagnosed with a DVT post-partum. But in the end I felt strongly that I wanted DC1 to have a sibling, and went for it after nearly 4 years. Luckily my condition was managed with medication, and DC2 was not as early as DC1 so it worked out okay. There's not a one size fits all answer for everyone though, as PP experience shows.

How old is your DC1?

Honestly pregnancy is so tough!

He is 2, just literally turned 2 a couple of weeks ago. So we definitely have time

sorry to hear about your experience too, it does scare you a bit doesn’t it?

You have time then OP - wait until you're sure. x