So, I love my job. I've worked here since I qualified 6 years ago. I have part time hours which are hard to get. I love the particular days I work (end of the week). I love the location of my work, as it's in walking distance of my house. I have some really great colleagues.
However, I really, really struggle with my boss. She makes patronising comments to me, is negative, pulls me up on tiny things in front of other people, tries to blame me for other people's mistakes, gaslights me, compares me to other members of staff. She tells me to do something a certain way, so I do, and then tells me I shouldnt have done it like that. In conversation, she talks very fast, interrupts a lot and talks over me. I tried to tell her how I feel, and she told me that other people wouldn't be upset by the things I am, and that I perhaps misunderstand things said to me (I don't) because of my autism.
It's honestly breaking me. It causes me so much stress. I'm currently speaking to my union about something she's done that actually kind of unlawful and it's going to be so awful when she's pulled up on it.
It's so awful because she gave me my job, kept me on permanently, so I've just put up with everything because I felt a sense of loyalty. All other staff members love her. I'm the only one she treats like this. I've always said that I can't imagine her saying the things she says to me to other people.
Has anyone else been in this situation? Great job but awful boss? I know the easy answer is just leave, but I'm at the top of my pay scale and jobs are very competitive in my area, so I think I'd actually have to just leave my profession if I left. Plus there are lots of things I do love about my workplace.