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Rant regarding DH’s anxiety/OCD

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Glasscabinet · 18/07/2025 17:57

Just a rant really. I know it’s not his fault (maybe he could go to the doctors instead of just accepting it).

DH is a constant worrier and always needs reassurance. I feel like the simplest task he does he’s worried that he’s done it wrong/it’s going to go wrong (will the letter he sent definitely arrive).

One thing he’s constantly worried about is that two years ago we got a car parking fine from a supermarket. We went in with a receipt and the manager said he’d cancel it. We never heard anything since. He’s worried as we never got any proof that it was cancelled, and what if we’re going to get fine with two years worth of penalties. He mentions this hypothetical fine at least twice a month, and he falls into a pit of the world is collapsing. There’s other ones, always asking me ‘is it going to be ok/are you sure it’s going to be ok’ to what I call non-issues/problems. He keeps going on and on and I must admit I am getting frustrated as I feel like there’s at least a few full blown panics regarding hypothetical worst case scenarios (one was what if the high street insurance company goes into liquidation before they pay out for the damage to the car…)

Today he’s said I need to be more patience with him after telling him to stop worrying about a fine cancelled over two years ago.

Not sure why I’m ranting really. Just feel like it’s a mood killer; quite often happens when we’re meant to be having a nice day and I become frustrated finding solutions to hypothetical problems (aka, how would we manage to pay the fine with all the added penalties on…)

OP posts:
Glasscabinet · 18/07/2025 17:58

Sorry full blown panics a week.

OP posts:
PsychoHotSauce · 18/07/2025 18:01

Anxiety is horrible, but what help is he getting for it? He can't just fall into the role of you mothering/babying him. It will (has?) kill your relationship.

Shesellsseashellsnotinmystreet · 18/07/2025 18:04

Emphasis you aren't his Dr or therapist.. Suggest he sees both as you can't carry his mh anymore.
He needs to take responsibility for himself.

Tough love needed imo.

HelloGreen · 18/07/2025 18:04

I have a similar form of OCD and got help for it. He can’t put the reassurance on you, he needs to at least try to improve his symptoms.

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