Problems with nursery (toddler being bullied), what would you do?

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Hey MN,

My three year old is in nursery and about a month ago I collected him and he was in floods of tears and told me that one of the boys (let's call him Jack) had hit him. He was devastated and it wasn't an act.

He's a very quiet boy and in nursery photos (which they send to us every week), he's off by himself in his own little world. But I think this makes him vulnerable.

A four year old girl has now started there and again, he's saying that she pushes him.

I've spoken to the nursery but they tell me that although he doesn't get on with Jack, the hitting incident didn't happen. I just can't believe it because he's stuck to his story ever since.

Yesterday, I went up the nursery and I saw the girl pushing my son and him getting upset. He also pointed Jack out to me because obviously, he wants me to sort it.

But it's tricky because the nursery is almost making out like it's my son with the problem because he doesn't play with the rest of the group.

Wwyd?

A childs perception is different at this age.

Even older children's perception can be skewed because they only remember the bits that affect them
A child may report someone placing a hand on their shoulder as a punch, a slap, a push and are adamant that is what happened.

A child tripping over someone and falling onto another children from behind is often seen as a definite push.

The term bullying is often used and when the incident is broken down there was no bullying.

If you saw the girl push him did you speak to the staff?