Inappropriate comments from year 6 boy

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My DD (just turned 10) is in a mixed class (year 5 and 6), there were some inappropriate comments said a few weeks back by the boys, this was addressed by the HT. Today, one of the boys in her class said to her, ‘I want to make a baby with you, when you’re asleep, I’m going to cum on you!’ He then proceeded to say, ‘Me and you, in the toilet, whilst making a hole shape with his fingers and pushing his middle finger into it!’ (As to insinuate sex).
To be honest, I’m fuming, I am writing an email to the HT this evening.

I’d report to social services, in writing and report to the school in writing copying in the chair of governors too

This has so many safeguarding red flags all over it. For both your child and the boy involved.
School should be taking this very seriously. If they don’t, start escalating.

Ask to speak to the DSL (designated safeguarding lead) - by law there has to be one in every school. If not ask to speak to an assistant DSL. This is serious - even if the boy concerned has no real idea of what he is saying, he has clearly heard it somewhere and it’s not appropriate for a child of that age to be exposed to that kind of thing.

1600 reports of child on child sexual assaults or inappropriate behaviour in primary schools last year.
https://www.lbc.co.uk/news/uk/rape-culture-primary-schools-report-reveals/

We need to be speaking to our boys.

OP I work in a school. Please report what he said using the exact words if your DD can remember them.
Contact the DSL from the school. Their info should be on the school website.

Agree that’s awful and needs reporting to school safe guarding lead. My DS is year 5 in a mixed year 5/6 class. Some of the boys (not mine!) have started saying “she’s hot” about the mums. The hormones are stirring a little for the year 6’s but that’s been the worst of it so far. It’s a million miles from what was said to your poor DD though. I hope she’s ok.

The flippant way that you refer to primary aged boys making comments about women openly is part of the problem.

As I said before- we need to be speaking to our boys, not putting it down to hormones fgs.

Tell the teachers. The parents. The DSL.

But please don’t just excuse it.

This.
All those saying "this is disturbing, this is a safeguarding issue, perhaps he's been exposed to porn"... yes, it is incredibly disturbing. It's also a really predictable consequence of a society in which young kids are routinely given smartphones.
The average age of exposure to pornography in the UK is 13. 20% of 11 year olds have seen it. Children watching violent porn should be a safeguarding red flag, and perhaps it used to be, but now unfortunately it's the norm.
The sort of interaction the OP's DD has experienced will only become more common until we start scaling back on children's access to porn. The damage it does to the developing brain is immense, and special assemblies, detentions, exclusions etc can't undo that damage. Punishing the boys is appropriate in the sense that the school has to be seen to take action, but that won't stem the tide of violence coming towards our girls.

Your poor DD.
it scares me, I teach secondary but the things some of the Year 7 boys say and know about is crazy. 11 year olds talking about only fans, fingering girls and anal sex.